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I'm on strike from making dinner. Vent.
I know when Tom gets home from work tonight he's probably hoping that I'll make dinner...but I just don't feel like it - not only do I have to wake 2x during the night to feed Austin, but I also have done a butt load of laundry today, entertained Austin, brought him for a walk and to Target (we we saw his pedi and her kids - she hollered after us "hellooooo Austin!" 
)...fed him, soothed him all day when he had naps, changed an poocano of a diaper that literally exploded up his front and back, bathed him, put him to bed, attempted to scrub the kitchen floor on all fours, because we have about 20 of Tom's family members coming over on Saturday....
I'm totally ticked because I just have not had time to clean - I asked Tom LAST YEAR to help me open up and clean all the windows...I asked him again this year - yeah, has still yet to be done. Thanks hunny, let's pile 20 people in our tiny house with no windows open. So I was all gung-ho about cleaning the house for his family and told him to bring the convertible car seat up to our spare bedroom, because I didn't want it to get musty in the basement.....he was like: "Well I don't want it up there."
me: "why not?"
him: "because I want my aunt sandra and her family to see the house."
me: "we never saw their bedrooms."
Which we never did when we visited them in Maine....so now I have about 20 people coming over on Saturday - we are just getting pizza thank God, but I have to clean the WHOLE HOUSE, go grocery shopping and make a salad and dessert, and take care of a 4 month old that I am BFing....
somehow I don't see the house getting clean and I don't care....so anyways, that's why I am not making dinner tonight, because I am freaking exhausted.
Oh and Tom was also giving me crap because I want Kitty to stay upstairs while we have food out, because that cat WILL get into the food and he was like: "Oh, but people will be around..." yeah, like everyone is going to be babysitting the cat's every move. Not to mention it is an indoor cat and there will be kids here running in and out of the house, I'm sure...
Okay, I'm done complaining....whew! Glad I got that out...now off to get something for myself to eat....
Re: I'm on strike from making dinner. Vent.
Take a deep Breath Lisa!!!
I dont blame you for not wanting to make dinner. Make Tom do it, or do a fend for yourself night. You shouldnt have to do it all by yourself, so only do what you can do, and if he doesnt like it, i guess he'll have to take on some extra tasks. When my husbands family comes over, he helps just as much as I do to get the house "ready".
Oh, and we put our Cat away as well, when we have company. She is horrible and gets into EVERYTHING. It is just easier that way! Dont feel bad about that!
The way that DH and I see it, we both have "jobs" during the day. He just leaves the house to go to his and gets paid with actual money for it. Mine is here at the house and the rewards are even better than money, though they don't actually buy us anything - LOL! When we are both home, though, we are equally responsible for things like making dinner for us (the kids eat earlier than we do, because they go to bed pretty early so I always take care of their dinners - that's part of my job description). If I have time to make something for us to eat, then I do it, but if I don't, he does it once he gets home - if he wants to eat, that is - LOL!
And don't worry too much about running around and getting the house spotless for your visitors this weekend. I used to do that too and I have decided that it's not worth it. People understand that you have a small child and don't have time to keep your home spotless and to heck with 'em if they don't!
Laura, I love the way you word things. ?You are always the voice of reason and it's great!?
Laura, I love the way you word things. ?You are always the voice of reason and it's great!?
Yes you are a great little wifey! I hear your pain. It sucks for me too since working full time and trying to take care of the baby when I get some AND trying to get house work done......its really enough to drive me crazy. I really want to have "normal" dinners (not just cereal, frozen pizza or PB&J) but I also have the household of if I dont cook then no one will
I think a lot, not all, guys are like this. Very infuriating!