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We almost couldn't go to our Anniversary Dinner tomorrow night ... Update
My sister emailed me and said she thinks I misunderstood her, she didn't want to come over and intrude, she wanted to come over and visit my mother because it's my mother's birthday Sunday and she can't see her Saturday or Sunday because she has shifts at the hospital. She doesn't have to work tomorrow but she has to sleep and so she wanted to come and give Mom her present and visit. My mother and I talked and my mother said that if my sister couldn't come over, she wouldn't babysit Alyssa because obviously I didn't think she was capable enough. My dad was in the background piping in how foolish it all was that I preferred it just be him and my mom at my house tomorrow night. My mother wasn't hearing me on how this is the first time we're leaving Alyssa alone and she won't be in bed when leave, so they are going to be putting her to bed and hopefully she would go down easy like she does for us but if not, they were going to have to make her their focus and my mother said that either she or my dad could do that and the other would visit w/ my sister. My mom then went on about how it's her birthday and she wants to see my sister and my sister wants to see her (my sister lives closeby, she isn't a foreigner or anything like that). She then said how mean and disrespectful I am to my sister and how unwelcoming and my sister should ALWAYS be welcome at my house without question. I won't even begin to get into the loooong history I have with my mother and sister ... all I will say is that I was deeply hurt at being told she wouldn't babysit my child for my anniversary night if my sister couldn't come over.
So Eugene and I talked and decided, we're going to be closeby just for dinner and we'll be home within a couple hours and we'll just deal w/ it. But we both agreed that after this shenanigan, my mother will not be our first choice of babysitter ever again given her time comes with strings attached.
Re: We almost couldn't go to our Anniversary Dinner tomorrow night ... Update
OMG, I totally feel for you. ?I know you & I haven't always seen eye to eye, but it sounds like your mother & my mother should hang out some time. ?I do not get along with mine at all. ?Ugh- I won't hijack your post and get into it, but let's just say my mother & I are verrrrrry different people.
Anyway, that really sucks that they put you in this position. ?That's really unfair of them to all be that selfish- ?especially considering you've never asked them to babysit before.
Have fun at dinner and try not to let this ruin it for you!?
Same here, you know the story Sam, my mom ALWAYS sticks up for my sister too!! ?So frustrating!
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Same here, you know the story Sam, my mom ALWAYS sticks up for my sister too!! ?So frustrating!
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I AM glad to hear that you and Eugene are still going but I dont blame you at all for putting her on the "D" list for future babysitting. I would do the exact same thing. I have to agree with Laura (in the last post) it really isnt helping or a favor if you have to bend over backwards to please the person "helping" you.
I cant relate with your mom and sister as my mom and I have had different struggles but lucky for us not only have we got passed that but she is now one of my bestest....but I would be glad to lend her to you to lay the smack down on your mom and trust me my momma is feisty..lol!!