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1st Married V day. Ideas?
This is going to be our first Valentine's Day as a married couple. Our 1st Christmas sucked and my birthday is right before that which he didn't get me anything. (Absent-minded I guess) So, I need some ideas to make Valentine's day great. Any thoughts?
Re: 1st Married V day. Ideas?
Ok., so to many, v-day is special. I get that. I personally think it's a bit overblown, but so be it.
however, my advice to you is to stop placing extra importance on your first married _____. I too dont' see why being married makes your b-day, Christmas, v-day, etc any different than it was before.
And if you keep placing this extra importance on it, that perhaps your DH isn't, you're only setting yourself up to be disappointed EVERY time. Do you really want to do that?
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Not really. Just wanted to see what people thought. We never really did anything for Valentine's Day because before I was with him, I was so use to spoiling myself with a movie, nice dinner, hot bath all by my lonesome. Our first ever Valentine's Day, be brought over candy and flowers but I never really wanted that. Usually one of us gets the memo and another one does not. Been that way for a while. We were just planning on staying at home and may be going out with his brother and his wife the day before.
You are totally right but either I do not celebrate a holiday and he does or the other way around. Wanted us to be on the same page this time.
This is less about the holidays and more about communication between you and your DH. Use the holidays as a starting point, but talking to each other about wants/needs/expectations is a pretty good rule of thumb for marriage in general. Stuff like "hey babe, Valentine's Day is coming up, what do you think we should do?" Like last night DH and I talked about whether we should go out that night or if I should make a nice dinner for us (since him cooking is NEVER a good idea). We talked earlier this week about how he would feel about me running a race Valentine's Day morning. That way we're always both on the same page and have the same expectations for the holiday.
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Exactly. Although, based on what you said in the OP it's also about how you think Valentines needs to be this serious holiday that you celebrate in some big fancy, "we're married now, look at me type" of way. For us, it's just another date on the calendar. We're skipping our typical date night of going out and making a nice dinner at home, but that's more because it's too busy in restaurants on holidays and we'd rather just cook together than wait around for two hours. Why should you need a day specifically designed to show each other how much you mean to one another? I think it's all a bit silly once you get out of elementary school.
I was super sick on our first Valentine's day. Luckily, I'm not terribly invested in the holiday. This year, we're having brunch at a local hotel, followed by a movie, and heart shaped pasta at home for dinner. We will be exchanging cards.
I pretty much hate crowds so we've always avoided dinners out on Valentine's Day. Plus restaurants jack up the prices and the service usually sucks. Some things we have done:
1. A visit to a museum followed by a nice lunch downtown
2. A hike (obviously weather contingent) with a picnic.
3. A show - concert, play, musical - with drinks before/after
4. A spa day with a couples massage
5. A night at a nice hotel
6. A one day class - cooking, massage, travel - anything we are interested in and can do together
It's our first married Valentine's Day too, we are doing our traditional give each other cards and I'm super excited to give him a card that says "Husband". That is probably the only difference for our first married Valentine's.