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I caved...
and hired a cleaning lady. My parents wanted me to hire one that would start right after we got married, but I really wanted to attempt to maintain our little one bedroom apartment myself (it was a pride thing for me).
I lasted 6 months at least 
. Since I have been sick for a month now it has been a lot for DH to work as many hours as he does and then also maintain the house. It's just not possible. Not only that, but my doctor thinks I am wasting energy cleaning that I could be using for other things...
We hired the same person that does the other houses in my family, which is nice since she is trustworthy and I know she will do a good job.
It just feels a little weird though. I'll be here while she cleans since she is coming on the days I work from home. I feel odd having someone clean for me while I'm siting here watching! I also feel a little weird giving her directions on what to do...
Do any of you have cleaning ladies? How has it been for you?
Re: I caved...
I feel weird being in the house while my cleaning lady is here, but a lot of times it's inevitable because she is here on Saturdays. I try my best to stay out of the rooms she is cleaning. I sometimes feel weird asking her to do certain things around the house but if I think it's reasonable, I simply ask. If it's something that might be a bit outside of the normal (ie: cleaning the cat's litter box), I asked her if she was comfortable doing that.
Sounds like it was a good choice in your case to get a cleaning lady! I think I only last 3 months. The truth is that we both work a lot and it wasn't worth it to use our little free time to do cleaning. Don't feel guilty!
I know I'm trying not to feel guilty. DH keeps telling me that lots of people have cleaning help and they aren't sick. It was just something hard for me to realize and accept. But whatever!
I'm actually paying her extra upfront to do two things that she usually doesn't do (fold our laundry and clean the fridge) so I'm hoping I don't have to give her much direction. The rest of the stuff is the usual (dusting, floors, patio, bathroom, kitchen, change sheets. etc.)
I wish I could avoid being in the same room as she is cleaning but our place is basically one room lol. The only thing I can thing of is going to yoga while she is here. I have to check the afternoon schedule!
Do not feel bad, You do not need to waste energy cleaning while you can be wasting it on something else.. your health is very important.
Maybe run your errands when she comes, groceries?
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Hey, don't worry about it! It's a good thing, you don't want to push yourself too hard, for what? What's most important is your health and in my case, sanity! LOL
We hired a cleaning lady after I started school again. It was a gift from my husband after he saw that I was going nuts trying to keep up with the house, school, and work. It's worked out really well so far. She comes every other week. I keep up the house in between. When she comes we're usually at work. Even if I have a day off when she comes I leave the house because I don't want to be there either. How long does she clean for? Maybe you can take those days to run out and do errands for those hours?
Thanks, ladies! I'm getting over it. I would definitely rather use my energy doing more fun things than cleaning
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Ceventa, she comes for the first time next week so I don't know how long she will take. I can't be gone from the house too long though because she will be here at around 2pm which is when I am working. I could leave for about an hour but I'm sure she will be here at least 2 hours, maybe 3. She is very thorough with the other homes she does.
I'll get used to her being here while I clean. I'll just have to look REALLY busy on my computer lol.
Don't feel guilty! Everyone could use help around the house, especially with your illness. I have been saying I'm going to hire one for forever and just haven't gotten around to it.
I dont think there is anything wrong with having a cleaning person if you can afford it and if you feel its necessary.
I have a cleaning lady. When we moved into our home, I cleaned on my own for a month before I realized I needed help. I work strange hours (overnights and weekends). My days off are Fridays and Saturdays. Fridays I spend a couple of hours with my mom which is mandatory (shes going through some things and needs some mother/daughter time once a week) so my only real day to myself is Saturday. Saturday is also the day me and my husband both have off together. With the way I clean I spent all day Saturday cleaning. I decided it was not worth it to waste my only day with my hubby cleaning. She comes every other week and I still do light cleaning in between. Best $70 bucks I spend every two weeks.
I'm sure once she starts I'll be so happy we made this decision. I can't wait until she comes and the house sparkles.
The cost isn't that cheap, but I'm looking at it as a medical expense. I know I shouldn't feel guilty, I think it's just because it's because of medical reasons that it's making me feel this way.
No wallowing though, I'm sure it's a good thing!