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Making FB friends & Poll
I think it is weird when I get a FB friend request from some long lost person and then they don't seem to want to have any further contact beyond the request. And a few days ago one of my old co-workers popped up on the People You May Know thing. I was thrilled! I always adored her and we traveled a lot together and got to know each other very well. So I sent her a friend request. She accepted it and I sent her a message (nothing overbearing, just a few sentences) saying that I was happy to see her, where I was working now, how is her life going, etc. She hasn't replied yet. Does that mean she only friended me to be polite but is completely freaked out about it now?
So when you reconnect with someone on FB (not just like getting a friend request from your neighbor - I'm talking about someone that you have been in contact with for a long time), so you make an effort to say hello or is the clicking "send friend request" and "accept friend request" an acceptable "I acknowledge thee?"
I just a friendly gal looking for options.
Re: Making FB friends & Poll
It depends on the person - there was a girl I found on there recently who completely dropped off the map after graduation because of a lot of home issues she was having. She was someone I regularly looked for on facebook, so I was so excited to finally find her on there, and we messaged back and forth for awhile to give life updates.
I've friended some other high school friends that I don't have much contact with since the friending - it's mainly just because I'm nosy and want to see their profiles.
It depends. Sometimes I'm in the mood to friend people just because I want to see if they still hang out with so and so or they still xyz. Others its because I genuinely want to reconnect.
I usually send a message if they don't. One time I didn't and she left a passive aggressive post on my wall.
Passive Aggressive-ton- hey, I thought I would say hi since you didn't. I'm officially going to stop trying to get together, cause you never respond. Daughter's good by the way!
September 12, 2009 at 9:19am
So I posted on her wall that I'm glad her kid is doing well and how glad I was that she hasn't changed a bit and was still a passive aggressive biitch.
She deleted it. I should have just replied to that post. Fail.
Usually this. But I'm antisocial, so don't go by what I say.
i'm with heffa. i'm social, but if i've got nothing to say, i've got nothing to say.
i've fb friended people and just let months go without comment to them. i have noticed that some people just add friends, and don't respond at all. one of my friend's wall is just a slew of "why haven't you written?" posts and such.
I think the ability to see photos without friending people has cut down on my need to friend them.
I can satisfy my nosy fix without going the whole friend route.
i actually have to clean house soon in my friends list.
i happily reconnected with people i knew years ago, and either decided to start the friendship up again, or kill it dead for good. Those are the ones I need to delete because i really don't care to even bother with their profiles.
the rest of my list is mostly friends of DH, WWers, and family members.
i have also sent short messages to people who either took a while to get back to me (because they were too busy, which was fine), or didn't reply altogether because they didn't know what to say (long lost half brother i never knew).
most of the people i friend request, i also send a short message if i hadn't been in contact with them for a period of time.