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coworkers and babies.
work is weird right now. i am actually slacking today because i need some me time here.
but anyway, i am in this good little group dealing with new accounts and client data, and we're always going into a huddle or having to work together on certain aspects of this project.
so one of the agents i am working closely with (whi is actually really great) started to talk about her kids. then she asked me, "when are you having kids?"
to which i replied, "eh, DH and i will talk about it eventually."
i could have said it was none of her business, but i don't think i needed to be completely confrontational about it, and i don't think i need to get into any details anyway.
so then she asked me how old i am, and i told her. then she started to joke that she (and the other agent sitting with us) are going to make sure DH and i get started on that because i am not getting any younger, and they'll get us a room at the hotel if they have to.
i smiled and then went back to doing what i was doing.
you know, i am not offended as much as i just wonder why people want to bring these things up at work. i'm tight lipped about most things in my life, and that's not changing anytime soon at work.
Re: coworkers and babies.
i'm sorry she got all up in your junk drawer about it.
one of my coworkers constantly asks me why my boss isn't married, and says it's such a shame. i want to punch her in the throat.
Staring at someone blankly usually remedies this situation for me.
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you know, i could turn my coworkers off completely from talking to me. i could have said, "well, he doesn't have a good weenis", which may have ended that conversation.
the conversation topic didn't bother me. i just don't get personal at work, and i think i am the only one here like that.
A couple of the older women here get on my case about kids. And now the dental hygenist that H and I see is getting on our case about babies. She's sweet but it's a little embarrassing.
Also my ILs are all grandparent hungry.
As the knocked-up IF, I am rather offended when it goes taht way.
Seriously, we were trying for the better part of 2 years. I got to have surgery, the Mr. got to have his swimmers mocked, and we were still scraping adoption $.
That *** is both personal AND medical. People should tread carefully.
I mean, 1 in 8? couples deals w/ IF. 1 in 6 pregnancies never makes it out of the 1st trimester.
There's no excuse for not realizing it can be sensitive.
I don't understand how people think this is okay. Really. I hated when DH's family used to do this to me. Not us, me.
Plus, you really never know if someone is having fertility problems, maybe had a MC, whatever. Wouldn't you feel like an ass then? If you don't know them well enough to rule these things out, then you don't know them well enough to harass them about getting KU.
well, that's the thing. i figure, if i tell them things like, "it's something we'll do when we're ready" then i've answered them and now it's closed. if i become defensive or start getting into all of the stuff i could get into, it may raise more questions and no one needs to know any of my personal business.
sure they shouldn't ask, but they do. i'd rather not get them wondering why i reacted a certain way, so i brush it off, ya know?
not shocking, so many people don't have trouble and don't know anyone who has had trouble, so they have no personal experience with how common trouble can be.
SIL was talling me last weekend that DH and I should start trying for kids at this time next year, cause that's when she and other SIL are both going to start trying for #2 - and then all the cousins could be the same age. (Niece and nephew are 6 mos apart.)
I was just like, meh... we'll see. I don't have any intention of announcing to my family or the ILs when we decide to start getting it on sans protection... especially if we would have issues - I wouldn't want to deal with the added pressure. (plus, with any luck, we'll already be pg by this time next year...)
i agree. i've done the whole "how nice of you to take an interest" and the person generally starts sputtering. i don't want to talk about it ever again, and brushing it off normally stops further questions or discussion.
Some people just don't understand the subtle rules of work conversation.
I don't want to know that your husband is an alcoholic, and it affects your sex life.
I don't want to know that your DD is knocked up for the second time by another black guy(I wish he was a decent black guy) doesn't make it any better.
So on and so on.
EVERYONE I know asks when we are having a baby. One co-worker went as far as to write on the wall calender what date he thinks I will be KU by.
February 24th.
i think my mom will just lose it if dh and i hit our anniversary without a pregnancy. i don't doubt she's getting grief over it every week at church. yes, my people think that's appropriate to comment on.
This extends to labor and postpartum nurses as well. I get the question all the damn time. Seriously? Let me finish school and actually enjoy my marriage for a bit first.
Even better is how all the horror stories pop up once you are pregnant. One of our midwives was regaled by a pediatric nurse practitioner several times about how hard her labor and births were...
IF/Baby Blog
2 years, 2 surgeries, 2 clomid fails, 2 IUIs, 1 loss, IVF #1 - 10/25/10 = BFP!
TTC #2 - June: surgery #3, FET #1 w/ Lupron = canceled, poor lining
FET 1.2 mini-stim = BFN
FET #2 mini-stim, no BCPs = BFP 5dp5dt, betas:11dp5dt=350,13pt5dt=978, 16dp5dt=4606!!
I can't wait for the "im getting a divorce" post in 5 years or so because your husbands were fed up with your disgusting chair asses from playing on the knot all day and getting fired 4-5 times for not doing any work. you guys are all winners!! ~ Laur929
I consider it ALL rude. It's no one's business what's going into or coming out of my junk drawer unless they're 1)my spouse or 2)my doctor.
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I'd probably use the opportunity to make them feel like absolute schit for asking, personally.