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WWYD?
Dear Prudence,
My mother recently passed away,
and I was named sole beneficiary of a $20,000 life-insurance policy
she'd taken out without anyone's knowledge. She also left a letter,
explaining that while she and Dad had helped my brother "Ted"
financially throughout the years, they had done very little for me. She
said she hoped the insurance money would make it up to me and my
family. Ted immediately started hollering about how unfair this was and
said I was obligated to give him half. His reasons? He's broke and my
family "doesn't need" the money. Ted thinks he can work at a menial
job, have his wife stay home, and still live a middle-class lifestyle.
He's blown money he doesn't have buying into get-rich-quick schemes,
and when anyone suggests he get a second job, he gets huffy. My husband
and I also work blue-collar jobs, but we live within our means. I'm
proud that I never asked Mom and Dad for anything once I left home, and
$20,000 would make life for my family much nicer. I've thought about
giving Ted a token amount, $1,000 or $2,000, but I don't want him
thinking he can get money out of me anytime he wants. Do I owe my
brother a share of the insurance?
?Don't Know What To Do
I'd tell Ted where to stick it.
Re: WWYD?
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if ted hadn't said anything, i'd consider giving him a token amount. but now that he did, i would not.
Y'know...That's a good solution. Because you know that Ted and his wife aren't going to be able to give their kids jackshit.
Ahahaha
Mom leaving daughter a life insurance policy, but not Ted actually sounds a little passive aggresive..
Sounds like it was the best decision, seeing as Ted is more worried with the money than everything his mother has done for him.