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Nothing is making it better...
I know I posted last night about texting mu husband. I still never heard from him. I just dont understand, maybe im not suppose to understand. As it closer to him coming back to Louisiana I seem to get sicker. I just hate the unknown, it is breaking me down day by day. No lunch break again today, only time to think about everything.........Keep us in your prayers it isnt looking very good. Love Vanna
Re: Nothing is making it better...
::HUGS::
I wish we were there to wait with you. I just hope that you are able to get a real explanation when he gets home. If this is the end of your relationship - or the beginning of a new chapter in your relationship - it will take communication to figure it out. I hope and pray that he is able to talk to you about what he wants and needs and listens to your wants and needs.
You are in my prayers.
TTC #1 13 cycles, CP 6/09, TTC #2 1 cycle
CDing, EP'd for 13 months for #1, BFing for #2
Pregnancy Hypertension - inductions at 39w, I grow big babies: DD was 9 pounds 1 ounce 22 inches, DS was 11 pounds even 22 inches - both vaginal deliveries
I'm going to play devil's advocate and ask . . . were you guys really solid before this?
I'm no expert, but it seems from some of your past posts that you make some decisions without considering your husband. Perhaps he is feeling like he doesn't have much of a say in your married life?
Maybe you should take this time apart to do some deep soul searching. There are always two sides to every story. Look at your marriage, yourself, your husband and really search for some answers.
When I was younger (and in a different relationship) I was very strong willed and just did things the way I wanted. I didn't really consider my fiance's feelings . . . and because he was such a nice, laid back kind of guy he just went with whatever I wanted. After two years of this he finally broke down and told me he resented me for behaving the way I did and leaving him without a voice in our home. It was a huge turning point in my life . . . we broke up, but I took that lesson and try to apply it to my marriage now.
Do something to help yourself think this one out . . . write a letter, go for walks, journal . . . this is the perfect time for some major reflection. This may be an opportunity to work through hard times and make your marriage more solid than it has ever been . . . you will never know unless you take charge and start picking up the pieces.
We are always here for you and hope that things work out for the best . . . and hopefully my brand of support doesn't hurt your feelings . . .
Honestly I dont know.... Im trying to replay everything in my head and I cant figure it out. The only factor that I can think is the text messages. That and his friends who dont want to grow up and are ruining my life and slandering me on Facebook. I cant even get on bc it hurts to bad.
Its really hard to get into...
I am so sorry that your going through this. I would have already drove up there and confronted his sorry butt for not calling HIS WIFE!!!!!
This just really erks me too(kimmy I feel ya). I don't see how going from wanting to TTC to this.
Could all of this just be alcohol induced? I just don't know. I so wish I could help you. ((HUGS)) to you girly.
This. Regardless of everything else, he at least owes you an honest conversation.
My compltely unsolicited advice is as follows:
As someone in the same sort of marriage as you (met when we were teenagers and got married) I have realized that marriage is HARD work sometimes. It sounds to me like you are the one whose willing to do the HARD work at this point and your husband isn't willing to put the effort into it. That or something, unfortunately, like he is cheating.
We're totally here if you need to vent lady. Know that you're awesome and amazing and that fate has a way of working things out the way they're supposed to. Even if it seems awful now. I know thats of little comfort to you right now, but it has helped me to look at past events and make sense of them.
E-hugs your way.
Thanks
All of this is taking alot out of me... Im exhausted today. Me and the furbabies didnt sleep to well last night. But that is to be expected.
Lots of ((hugs)). I can't get past the complete lack of respect that your husband is showing to you. This is obviously a very serious matter and not something that he should have brought up on the phone/text rather than in person.
I'm sorry if this is rude, but he just seems like a coward and someone afraid to face the truth. This isn't some grade school relationship, it's a marriage and he should act like an adult. I really hope that he comes to his senses and you can at least talk in person and decide what to do from there. He is so wrong for just leaving you in limbo like this.
Vanna- you do not deserve this one bit! Even if you do work things out I hope you make him pay for this sh!t he is putting you through right now! It is ridiculous and so so so hurtful. ::BIG HUGS::, I will be thinking of you.
This is truely torture for me right now. It will be a week tm that I havent talked to him. Im not even looking forward to it. Im sitting at work and all I can do is think. This is making me sick!!! I hate this!