A poll for those not TTCing yet

MaineWifey

Why are you waiting?  Are there things you would like to do first?  Are you just content the way you are?

I have a huge list of goals pretty much in order of importance to me:

Sell our house and buy a new one 

Win one triathalon relay

Compete in a full tri

Beat my sister in a 5k road race

I would like one last summer for camping and ATVing etc. 

Save up 4 months of bills over and above our regular savings (for maternity leave since I don't get any)

A bonus would be to win the lottery or something, but I'd settle for just having the extra money in savings. 

Lose 10 pounds/wear a size 2

angeliza

MaineWifey:

Why are you waiting?  Are there things you would like to do first?  Are you just content the way you are?

I have a lot of the same reasons as you... DH and I want to save up 6 months of our bills, I want to travel more, finish the last few classes I need to get my degree, figure out what I really want to do for a career, lose 20 lbs and get in better shape, buy a house (we're renting currently), get better organized and more motivated in general... and really I'm just enjoying not having to worry about being responsible for another human life right now.

grahamsm3

MaineWifey:

Why are you waiting?  Are there things you would like to do first?  Are you just content the way you are?

I am fence sitting between never and maybe someday. The longer I am away from childcare the more I think having my own might not suck. If I don't get a job soon I might end up wanting a kid. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. 

We are not ready to have one now, we are content with just the two of us, we haven't test driven parenting with pets yet, we like being selfish with our time. No real goals to complete first, it's just not time yet (if ever). 

Glitzyklm

1.I love sleep 2. I have a major work task due and it's the make it or break it year for tenure track. So march 2011 is the magic date, I need to have research started and feel like this will be stressful. 3. I love my body and am not ready to give it up yet. 4. We have some traveling we'd like to do first 5. I'd like to at least start my doctorate program before baby. 6. We are still young, I'm 30 and dh is 28. We are only planning on having one.

danieleandwayne

Why are you waiting?  Are there things you would like to do first?  Are you just content the way you are? We're waiting because we're both going back to school. We just bought a new house, so now we have the room for a baby-- but we have no money and no time. When I finish nursing school in May 2011, we can start having babies (MH will still have a year left of his program, but it will be mostly interning at that point). 

Sell our house and buy a new one: This was only an issue for us because we needed room-- our current apartment is/was too small for us, let alone a 3rd person.

Win one triathalon relay: At 35 years old, my serious rugby days are mostly over-- plus, if I really want to, I can do that post-baby, too.

Compete in a full tri:  LOL I have no desire to run that far-- ever. Unless I'm being chased by large animals or a man with a cleaver. And biking and swimming I do for fun, not competition. LOL And again-- I have seen so many women do so many athletic things post-baby that I really don't want to allow myself that "excuse."  I know myself too well!

Beat my sister in a 5k road race: I can already do that-- my sister is a sprinter; I'm the "endurance" runner.

I would like one last summer for camping and ATVing etc. I cannot WAIT to do this when we have kids! It's how my family vacationed within a budget when I was young and I want to share that with my family. It would be nice, however, to take a trip to Europe or Australia/New Zealand without a baby or child to worry about. We'll see on that one, though (it'd be a GREAT "babymoon" trip!)...

Save up 4 months of bills over and above our regular savings (for maternity leave since I don't get any): When I'm making a nursing salary, I won't have to worry about this anymore-- it'll be so much easier! Hooray!

Lose 10 pounds/wear a size 2: I'm hoping the pregnancy will actually help me lose some of the weight. HA! And even when I was 18% body fat, I wasn't a size 2. Right now, I'd be over the moon to be a size 10 again... 

mesa81

Mostly DH isn't ready yet...

But, financially, we are really dependent on both our incomes and an insecure e-fund... too much debt... etc.

I'd be happy to be TTC this year... if we win $$$, I bet DH could be there too. Because we need the $$ there isn't any extravagent vacations/ travel plans, which I'd love to experience, but it's just not in the cards.

I also have to deal with some IL drama that may make the TTC process rather emotional.

indicanoe

For us, it just isn't the right time. We are working on getting health insurance, building a home, and honestly we are still in the moderate category for selfishness. ; ]. We're happy just practicing for now!

That being said, if I wasn't a nanny I would probably feel a whole lot different, and would hear the clock ticking louder....

Mrs. DCB-F

I'm terrified... honestly.  I keep going back and forth as to whether I think I can handle having kids.  I really want to but now that I just started this new job, I need to be there a year for maternity leave so we probably won't start until the summer or later... I'd like to try and plan it with the summer vaca.

jgreg29

Our reasons revolve around my health and MH's grad school plans.  My doctors have said it would be better for me to wait to be pregnant until my issues are more under control.  We also know that I will likely be taking a six month maternity leave (with about 3-4 months of that unpaid) and working part-time when I return to work.  While we've got MH's tuition money set aside, we don't want to dip further into our savings until he is working full-time again.  He'll start school next fall and finish in the spring of 2012.  Right now we think we'll start trying in spring/summer of 2012!

mleland84

1. We bought a house in June and the previous owners tried to do a lot themselves....wellllll they did a lot wrong, so we have some major things to fix (for starters you can see the sky where the garage attaches to the house!)

2. I need to wait to sign up for short-term disability through work, so some of my maternity leave is fully paid for.

3. My husband (MH? I'm still not sure about all these abbreviations!) has some past debt...so we'd like that to be paid off.

4. I want to travel, ,but like someone else said, it's just not in the cards right now, there is too many other things we need to spend/save our money on.

But if I were to get pregnant we would both be very happy. We WANT kids now but it would be selfish and wrong if we were ACTUALLY trying!

MaineIslandBride

MaineWifey:

Why are you waiting?  Are there things you would like to do first?  Are you just content the way you are?

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H and I both feel like we could both wait another 10 years before being 100% ready to have a baby. However, I am going to be 32 in a week and I am absolutely TERRIFIED of TTC/being pregnant after the age of 35 , so that is going to kind of cut down on our time and because of my age, we'll probably start TTC by the time I am 33, (so next year). If I were younger, I would want to do the following before TTC

Travel

Pay off ALL debt (although hopefully we can get alot of this done before we TTC conceive next year anyways)

Have 3-6 months of expenses in savings

 Maybe go back to school

Lose weight and get into shape (working on this one right now)

froggyp

The thought of having children terrifies me.  I am not good with children, don't particularly like other people's children, and don't feel any desire to have children.  I am enjoying having some peace and quiet.  I also don't want to have to cut back on work or any of my other hobbies.  I'm terrified of falling into traditional gender roles.  In a nutshell, I'm just not at the maturity level necessary to have a child.  We're thinking that maybe around our 5th anniversary in 2013 we'll start trying to conceive.  I'll be 32 and he'll be 34 so I hope I will have grown up by then.

mjellison81

We've definitely been back and forth on the issue, but are getting really close to being ready! I think the main thing we're holding off for is putting away $$$. DH has been aggressively putting his paycheck into various saving plans, and now that I'm working again, we're really going to get after it. Ideally, I'd like to not live in a small apartment as well. It probably sounds silly, but I'd like one more summer of prancing around in cute bathing suits and completing a couple of 5-10ks and a season of sailboat racing in Newport. I think sometime after the summer we'll stop preventing PG, and just see how it goes...

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