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Advice Please....
I've been a lurker for a while now, and I see how all of you have the best advice no matter what the situation is.
Well, DH and I have been married for a little over a year, and been together for eight years. He works at night, and I work days. We try to have sex at least three times a week, but there is no romance anymore. I've looked at sexy lingerie, but I;m a 16/18 with a F/G bust size. I haven't found anything that would look sexy. It all looks like something my Grandma would wear.
So, my first question is do you know of any good sites that have lingerie for a larger woman?
And second, what can I do to get some romance back in our life?
Thanks for listening!
Re: Advice Please....
As far as bringing the romance in more, take turns making your romping sessions all about the other person. Light candles, give him a massage- a really good one- do the little things you know he loves, and then next time it can be your turn to indulge!
Try to have more date nights too where it's not just about filling your quota, but you two are out together just enjoying eachother's company!
That being said, I checked out hipsandcurves too & wow! I'll be visiting there again for sure!
FI and I find that the harder we try to bring the romance back, the worse we fail. Or it all seems staged and cheesy. Our best sex usually happens when we're playing around and having fun.
I still say go on dates.
www.aboutcurves.com
www.large-size-lingerie.com
www.lanebryant.com
www.alwaysforme.com
www.lingerieplussizeonline.com
www.lingeriediva.com
as far as romance goes, try to flirt during the time you are away. Send sweet letters via email and texts that say "I Love you"(or naughty texts). If you have a camera phone send a sexy picture when he least expects it. (I have sent booby and coochy shots via phone and DH was sooooo excited when he got home. :} I have even sent him a picture of a position I want to try)
Thats all I can think of right now.
Im a size 12/14 with size Large C's/Small D' breasts. So I feel you in the department of lingere! I mean some stuff is just so frumpy looking. OR its way too tiny and it just looks so stupid.
My best advice. Boy shorts and top that makes your boobs stick out. Like a courset. Who cares if your boobs dont quite fit in it because that just makes it WAY better! And if you have a butt, flaunt it in boy shorts! You could be as big as a whale and boy shorts would still make anyones a$$ look damn good!
Also, long gown type things that are see thru. Black is slimming and then when your Dh gets a little peek a boo action at the same time. hot.
Or, "get dressed for bed" in cute little sporty undies or boy shorts and one of his white under shirts. I have yet to meet a guy that isnt totally turned on by that.
Sorry but she's not really plus sized lol
I think thats the problem. We as women who arnt rail skinny see the models who are skinny in the outfits. See how sexy they are. Then we get them and go home and its like HOLY CRAP I look like a fat pig lol.
Its so nice to see the models who are bigger and you see the pudgy bellys and the bigger thighs and you SEE what it looks like on your actual body size!
I mean I can fit into Victoria's secret large sizes, but when the models are smalls, its just not the same comparrision!
This is kind of what I was talking about with the boy shorts and sexy top...
http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/camisoles/Cami-Boy-Short-Set/X20079.htm
I think that is really good looking. Even more so if it was in black or a dark red.
I should really stop hitting reply until Im done lol
http://www.hipsandcurves.com/plus-size-lingerie/corsets-bustiers/Lace-and-Stretch-Satin-Bustier/X29000.htm
Now those things are FANTASTIC! Not only does it make your boobs look amazing, it also helps push in the tummy! So it actually makes you look thinner in the process!
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Buy a size to fit your breasts and take it to a good, discreet tailor.
Have you tried changing the time of day you are having sex. It seems from your post that you are being intimate passing between shifts. Sex isn't just intercourse. Try dirty texting him during your shift, sneak a phone pic of you r best girlie parts and sending it to him with a sexy message.
It's easy to be confident in the way you look if you just remember HE thinks you are the sexiest woman alive, you are not dressed that way to appreciate your own image in the mirror but to illicit a specific response from HIM, and last but not least it won't be on long.