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Here's my drama llama. Some one please take it away.
So older SIL is getting married in April. She and her FI live in Alabama (insert Dueling Banjos music), but the wedding is here. I am not involved in wedding stuff. Until now.
Backstory: older SIL was BSC but we get along now. She's apologized, moved on, and is doing fairly well for herself. I don't agree with everything she does, but then again I'm sure there is plenty about me people don't like. She met her FI in AA.
Anyways....
Before and after the wedding, MIL, stepFIL, and DH's grandpa are staying with us. No biggie, we have the room. 2 days before, older SIL and her FI are also staying with us. Again, no biggie they'll sleep on the air mattress.
A few nights ago, younger SIL calls DH and I. She's the MOH for this monstrosity and wanted to know if she could throw a small shower for older SIL at our house. No big deal, it was going to be low key. I really like younger SIL too. She won't come in, make a mess, and leave me to do it all. Also, I can swing leaving work a few hours early that day and be home to clean and such beforehand.
Last night, older SIL calls DH and asks if she can also have her rehearsal dinner at our house. It's going to be more people. She says she's going to have food brought in. I said hell to the no. One party is one thing, but I'm not a damn convention center. This is not the airport Hilton, and I am not playing hostess with the mostest. People are forgetting my ass is going to be like 36-37 weeks pregnant when this all rolls around. I can swing leaving early one day, but not two. No. Not now, especially when in a few short weeks I'll be leaving on maternity leave. Also, my MIL blows at cleaning. She got on her hands and knees and scrubbed my kitchen floor with water from a trash can. And she broke my vacuum. It's also going to end up being several consecutive long nights, and I need my sleep.
DH says he'll take care of everything but I know the reality. He'll do it half-assed or not at all and I'm left annoyed and doing it all. The other part of me feels mean and evil for saying no because she's on a serious shoestring budget, and it's DH's family.
Re: Here's my drama llama. Some one please take it away.
she's talking about paying to bring food in?
How is thea cheaper than getting a hall and a limited menu at a moderately priced restaurant?
Crap...I Mean Crafts
A shoestring budget does not mean that you get to keep hitting up the same relative for free help. That's just wrong. You have great reasons for turning them down, so don't feel evil.