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MIL issue
Hey ladies, I'm hoping for some advice, if anyone has any!
MIL has invited herself to my birthday party. Generally not a big deal, but this year I just wanted to do something with my friends. We had dinner at ILs last night to celebrate and after H & FIL left for their pool league she kinda cornered me. "So SIL told me the details about saturday, I never got an email, I guess I'll just find the directions online"
I didn't really say anything, kinda changed the subject, but is it bad that I don't want her there (FIL has to work, but that wouldn't make a difference really). It's my 30th, I wanted to do something different so we are going roller skating. I just want to have a nice night hanging out with my friend w/o worrying about being"proper" or whatever.
I know there are worse problems in the world and I don't mean to sound like this is a huge deal, just don't know what to do about the whole thing.
Re: MIL issue
Does she realize that it's going to be roller skating? If she doesn't realize that, she may not want to go when she finds out.
We generally keep family birthday parties and friend birthday parties separate. Is there any way you could have a smaller family party that your MIL could come to... like a brunch or something... and then a friends party at a different time?
This! I would tell her you appreciate her interest and DH (or whomever) is planning a brunch for family to celebrate on X date, that Saturday's party was organized for your friends. If you aren't comfortable with that, have DH do it
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This! It's your birthday, you should be able to spend it however you want! And do not feel guilty! She should understand that it's a "friends only" thing.
I agree with pp....
We kinda went through the same thing this week. DH made reservations to take me to this sushi place with an amazing reputation that we've always wanted to try. His parents kind of invited themselves... DH was like, "hey guys, it's sushi, mom doesn't eat fish..." and they were like "we'll pull the menu up online and see what they have, I'm sure I can find something"... which wasn't really the point. DH put his foot down and said that it was our date night and our way to celebrate as a couple and we would have to see them a different time. Everyone seems pretty happy now. GL!