s/o Sexless relationships..

cosmodawlitan

... that totally reminded me of this article I read in People Magazine last year. It was about a couple on the complete opposite end of the spectrum - they were committed to having sex every single day for a whole year.

It started out because the husband was turning 40 and the wife wanted to give him something memorable. So, she decided to gift him daily sex for 1 year.

She wrote a book about it > 365 Night: A Memoir of Intimacy

And here's a link to an article about it > Click! 

ETA: I meant to ask - do you think you could commit to that? I thought about doing that after reading the article... but honestly, I don't think I could do it every day for a year. The couple said they averaged about 28 days a month... that is a bit much for us. We average about 12-15 days a month.

CJChirico1020

Honestly no... I could not imagine having sex when I am on my period and it is a heavy day... Yeah no thanks.  Commiting to 4-5 times a week yes, everyday for a year no.. I think it would ruin something that is to be special

megd06

That seems like if you were to have candy or something else like that every day for a year--after a few weeks, it'd become old news. Even if I could--I wouldn't. Plus--with DH being in optometry school--he wouldn't WANT that right now--he's too tired : )

Mrs.RTH

I was going to mention the period thing too. That's a no fly zone during my time of the month. And DH works tweleve hour days so he's usually too tired on the days he works.

DCMcQueen

I'm pretty sure that's not TOO unreasonable of something to commit to. Sex doesn't necessarily mean intercourse... so even when we're on our periods... well, like Ron white says "just because the ride is broken, doesn't mean they shut down the whole amusement park". I mean I think its a little unrealistic to EXPECT, but Its a goal I can see myself making. My fiance and I have sex most every day, we have times when its only a few times a week tho too... but even if we're not having sex, we still at least try to keep the intimacy going and tease each other all day or something.

 On the other hand too though, FORCING yourself to have sex would probably somewhat ruin your sex drive in general... I personally like sex to be spontaneous, and hot and heavy, I would not want it to feel like a job. So meh, theres two sides to everything I suppose.

riderpunk

Definitely no on the period thing Just a complete no fly zone and I don't even want to be touched!  its not something DH or I are willing to do, we both can wait.  I also can't imagine having sex everyday.  Do these people work that have it everyday? With the hours DH and I work, we are lucky if we get it in once a week, and that is being scheduled.   I dont even think we have it more then 6 times a month, no time.

taylormillgirl

DCMcQueen:

Sex doesn't necessarily mean intercourse... so even when we're on our periods... well, like Ron white says "just because the ride is broken, doesn't mean they shut down the whole amusement park".

If I'm bloated, cramping, and feeling pissy, the whole damn amusement park is closed, and DH needs to 'handle' things on his own. Pun definitely intended.

No way I could commit to having sex every day. Not even every other day.

DCMcQueen

taylormillgirl:

DCMcQueen:

Sex doesn't necessarily mean intercourse... so even when we're on our periods... well, like Ron white says "just because the ride is broken, doesn't mean they shut down the whole amusement park".

If I'm bloated, cramping, and feeling pissy, the whole damn amusement park is closed, and DH needs to 'handle' things on his own. Pun definitely intended.

No way I could commit to having sex every day. Not even every other day.

I definately see what you mean with the cramps and bloating and all that, If I feel like *** I wont do it either, and the few times I do tell him no, he understands, because I normally will want to have sex even if I'm bloated or sick, or watever. I guess it just boils down to every relationship is different, and going 5- days without sexnever killed anyone... but am i the only one who gets even more in the mood while im menstrating? My period is usually only 3 days, so not having sex on my period is easy but by the time I'm off, I'm definately wanting to make up for those lost 3 days. I thought all women got super frisky on their period?

karbarr

DCMcQueen:

... but am i the only one who gets even more in the mood while im menstrating? My period is usually only 3 days, so not having sex on my period is easy but by the time I'm off, I'm definately wanting to make up for those lost 3 days. I thought all women got super frisky on their period?

My sex drive is at its best while menstruating. Don't know why, it just is. Doesn't stop me from anything.

taylormillgirl

OMG, no. My drive tanks during my period. It's highest right before ovulation.

texaswife09

My drive is MUCH higher during my period too, but DH has no desire for sex because of the whole period thing.  I totally feel the need to make up for the lost 3 days as well!

cosmodawlitan

My drive is at its highest during my period, too! And then when it's over, like you all mentioned, it's like I need to make up for all that lost time. That's really interesting to me that it isn't a female specific thing. I wonder what makes the difference? 

DCMcQueen

cosmodawlitan:

My drive is at its highest during my period, too! And then when it's over, like you all mentioned, it's like I need to make up for all that lost time. That's really interesting to me that it isn't a female specific thing. I wonder what makes the difference? 

 

I'm a bit curious too... i know every female is different but from what ive read, our sex drives in general are supposed to be highest when were ovulating... for obvious reasons. Maybe those of us with normally high sex drives are even higher when we menstruate because of the thought that we can't (or most of the time wont) have sex for those days? Kinda like the whole wanting something you can't have kinda thing.? lol

kjewell

no, if for no other reason then out schedules.  SOmetimes we don't see each other for a few days.  I have noticed that when we have sex everyday for a couple weeks we are both in a better mood and we get along better but I think after awhile we would get sick of it and it would become chorelike...not fun or sexy.

alabaster_angel

I'd love to at least give it a try - sadly with a baby on the way we know it's going to be pretty infrequent for quite a while.

As for periods - we're big fans of shower sex.

joliene_elizabeth

i could probably do it everyday for a while, but fiance wouldn't... he gets too tired. i guess this is gross but when i'm on my period, i want it the most and he doesn't mind it at all. since i'm on birth control, my period is never heavy. it also really helps with the cramps. he's gone for 20 days every month, and home for 10 days. it's been this way for about 3 years. so those 10 days we have together, it's usually every other day or sometimes everyday - period or not!

lifeguard

  Maybe if you work averages so 3wks of sex =28 total encounters? Or take the mono  pill without the week of placebos. Just eliminate the periods and have clear sailing for months at a time. Who said you have to be icky for quarter of your life?

texaswife09

lifeguard:

  Maybe if you work averages so 3wks of sex =28 total encounters? Or take the mono  pill without the week of placebos. Just eliminate the periods and have clear sailing for months at a time. Who said you have to be icky for quarter of your life?

Can you do that?  I mean, is it healthy?  Just curious!

lifeguard

   No problem. Lots of athletes, military personal, strippers etc all use this method.

   Usually doesn't work with tri-phasic pills. (spelling, sorry).

DCMcQueen

texaswife09:

lifeguard:

  Maybe if you work averages so 3wks of sex =28 total encounters? Or take the mono  pill without the week of placebos. Just eliminate the periods and have clear sailing for months at a time. Who said you have to be icky for quarter of your life?

Can you do that?  I mean, is it healthy?  Just curious!

 it is healthy for the most part... to play it safe they usually reccomend leting your body have one every three months or so... but my doctor told me, if your body needs to menstrate, it will. with or without the pills

msoucy06

i dont think i could go complete through with that, i'm sorry but somedays we come home from work and school and we're so tired it's a relief when be both give eachother that look like "i dont think it's gonna happen tonight" followed by instant sleep.