Mamas: now that you have #1 ... TTC #2?

vanceandlori

Hi ladies,

 

Just curious to see when you all plan to TTC#2 now that you have experienced having #1... has your "plan" changed at all?

My friends had their baby young (around 21 ish) and planned to try for #2 soon after, but bebeh 1 is almost 3 and they're still "talking" about #2.

I've also read about girls on the bump who wanted to wait a few years between kiddies but ended up trying for number two soon after the first was born-- like when #1 was 6 months!

Thoughts? What's your perfect age gap between kiddos?

myday1708

Well now that we have a 9/9/09 baby, we're going to go for a 10/10/10 kiddo and if that goes well, then one more -- an 11/11/11 child!

Hahaha. Not!

No TCCing expected this year. I want to nurse for a year if I can, then run a marathon. If we TCC at the start of 2011 then we COULD try for an 11/11/11 baby... But then I'd have a baby and be out on leave during the WINTER, and staying inside for  months would suck!!

Not that I can predict when we'd get KU but... If I temp, it could be easier...

Maybe we'll just TCC in 2011 and see what happens. Might take a few months or so... So the bebes would be 2-3 years apart. Perfecto!

How about you? 

mie

We wanted a two year gap between them, but ended up with almost 3 years.  I think we're thinking about TTC #3 later this year.

redshoegirl

I think a 2-3 year age gap between siblings is perfect. My sister and I are 2 years and 2 months apart, and my brother and I are nearly 5 years apart - and I can definitely say that from the child's point of view, the 2 years was much better than the 5.

However, as a parent I wouldn't want them as close as a year - I'd want to get the first one a weensy bit more self-sufficient before having another.

All of that said, I don't think we'll be having any more. We really only ever wanted 2 kids, and the only reason we'd ever probably even consider a third is so that we could try for a girl. However, since there's only a 50% chance of that happening - and since it would likely be the only reason we'd want to go for three - I think this will be it for us.

kauai_luv

We'll TTC #2 sometime in 2011. Not sure if I'll track cycles or just go off BCP and see what happens. It would be great if the next baby could come right before #1 goes into preschool. I could deal with two in diapers, but would prefer to only have to diaper one. Since DH is a firefighter I'm home by myself for 24 hours when he's on duty so the easier the better for me. Looking forward to Wai being a big sister for sure. We talk about it all the time.   

Married2MrWright

I am 35 now so we'll not be waiting very long to TTC#2...probably start TTCing in September 2011 or so.  We shall see...

mrspresley

I'm not sure.  I need to talk to my ob about it b/c I think if I want a VBAC we can TTC sooner but if I am going to have another c-section most recommend waiting 1 yr.  MH even mentioned TTC when A was 6 mos old but he doesn't take responsibility for the majority of her care so I told him he doesn't know what he is talking about =P

both MH and I have one other sibling...and we are both 4 yrs 9 mos apart from our siblings so we both know how it feels to have a large gap between siblings.  I think it was more noticeable when we were younger...now that we are older, it doesn't seem to really matter much.  I can't really decide what would be ideal... 1.5-2 yrs...or something farther apart like 3 years... probably nothing like 4-5 yrs though

mrs.winter

I would love to TTC when Ashton was a year old, but there is no way we could afford two in daycare!  So, with that said, unless we move back to the mainland with our family, we will wait until Ashton is out of daycare before we have another. 

MrsZiz

We never went back on BC after having Bella. We'd really like to start TTC now but at the same point, I want her to keep BFing and I have heard that your milk supply goes down or some kids won't BF once you are pregnant. Although, I've talked to several friends that BF while pregnant with #2 without any issues. That said I think we'll wait until she's at least 9 months old so at least if she does stop BF there should be enough milk to make it at least another 2 months in the freezer....I don't want them to be too far apart but it did take us 7-8 months to get pregnant the first time so I'm a little afraid that will happen again.

MauidAims

Week Kai turns 2 next week and I m/c'd in Dec, so we were trying. I thought I would have kids further apart BUT then this urge come over me. Perhaps it is our age too (I am 35 and DH is 38).  I am worried that I will have TTC again because my cycles are off.  BUT Dh is being deployed at the end of the year and I dont want to have a baby while he is gone. We have some hard decisions to make as to when to have the next one :(

Amy4773

I my world, things are very different.  IF we can have one with the 2 of us, the oldest sibling will be 18 years older.  Not ideal, but not all of us can plan and predict unfortunately.

mrspresley

Amy4773:

I my world, things are very different.  IF we can have one with the 2 of us, the oldest sibling will be 18 years older.  Not ideal, but not all of us can plan and predict unfortunately.

amy, my friend's older brother is 20 years old than her...he is turning 50 this year! she didn't seem to mind growing up, but then again she did have a sister that was only 1.5 yrs younger than her.  not everything goes as planned, like you said...and I think having a child at all is a blessing doesn't matter how far apart they are in age. you can't plan everything in life!