when r we are having kids

vanered15

well me and the hubby decided that we will start trying towards the end of this year which is more or less when everything should be settled down in terms of a home, settle job and settle life. lol

i just started again on the BC cause i dont want no accidents at all even though if it happens it will be a blessing but i really want to wait.

 

is it too soon???

 

when are u all gonna start trying?

EliStar

DH and I are currently TTC. We are fast approaching our third year anniversary and we have traveled and really enjoyed our time as just husband and wife, without any kids. It's nice to be able to pick up and go without thinking about anything. We wanted to be married for at least two years before starting our family, to really bond, to give us time to get settled into our careers, and now we're looking at homes. So it seems like the right time. We're really excited.

I think when you're ready, you just know.

chachita07

I think the time frame is different for all couples, it should not be a matter of time but when you both are ready.

We have been together for almost 7 years and have lived togther for 5 and we have always wanted children, but I wanted us to enjoy our lives first and never ever say that we should have waited to have children.

We are currently TTC now unfortunelty its not as easy as they said back in school where sex=pregnancy=baby.

I think you will know and should not rush into anything just because you just got married. GL! 

angie74

we decided we'd start talking about it when I'm 30, so in 3ish years

I have ZERO desire to have kids right now. we're both too busy, and we like to just do what concerns us, not a family.

yes, we both really want a family, just not now. 

latinachica29

Even though we've been together nearly 9 years, we just got married and moved in together so we really want to enjoy us.

DH is graduating in May so it's always been important to him to live a while after being done with school and I agree. We're adding maternity to our health insurance next year just in case we decide to start TTC next year.

 I know I'm not totally ready yet and he's not so I can't say when we'll start. I always wanted kids early but now things have changed, lol. Maybe at least one before 30 so I have 3 1/2 years, hehe.

JennyLo26

I think the "right time" is different for every couple whether you have been married one year or 5 years. In my case, my husband and I are both currently going through some career changes so we definitely need to wait for now. We know we want around 3 kids....we just dont know when yet. Most of our friends are still getting engaged/married. We were one of the first ones to get married and none of our friends have kids so we are still at that stage where we are all going to eachothers weddings, going to housewarmings etc. Im sure once some of our friends start having babies we will get that baby fever too.

chunky777

Never think its too early or too late...it all depends on the couple.  DH & I dated 5 yrs and will be 3 yrs married on March 24th.  We always said we would start trying after our 3rd yr anniversary....but G'd had a different plan for us.  Although we were emotionally ready for children....financially, when we found out we were pregnant, it wasn't the best time.  But everything just seemed to flow together.  Amazingly we have been able to provide for Izzy more than imaginable. Right now I'm more than happy with my daughter...I can't explain the joy she brings to my life.  And all my friends that are having trouble conceiving or can't conceive at all....makes me feel so blessed for our "UH? we're pregnant?" little girl.  I 100% believe that my daughter was brought to this world to show us to have faith that everything will work out. ((ok getting teary))

MrsVictoriaB

We got married Jan 08 and our first baby was born October of 08.. 9 months later Yes it was planned, and I never regret that decision. We had been together for 8 years as a couple prior though so we were all traveled and just the two of us timed out

chunky777

MrsVictoriaB:

We got married Jan 08 and our first baby was born October of 08.. 9 months later Yes it was planned, and I never regret that decision. We had been together for 8 years as a couple prior though so we were all traveled and just the two of us timed out

HEE HEE HEE!!! This made me giggle...jackie is a honeymoon baby YAY!!

sandye

I agree with the girls. The "right" time depends on the couple. In my opinion it is definetly important to take some time as just husband and wife before starting to try. For me our "us" time is something I cherish.

DH and I have been together for 5 years and married for 1. We did move in together a year before our wedding so it actually feels like we have been married longer. Even though we originally planned to wait longer we decided that the timing feels right for us right now. So we are planning to start TTC mid year.

Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

MrsMichiBolooki

Definitely depends on the couple and your situation. DH and I have been together for 9.5 years, but are nowhere near ready financially, health-wise, or career-wise to have a family.  We want to start trying by our second anniversary, but even then it may be too soon because of these issues (career and health).

As much as we already have baby fever, we also wanted time to enjoy ourselves as a couple.  We never lived together in all the time we dated so it's nice to enjoy this time.  Once kids come, everything changes. 

 

p1nkred1ble

I am with all the PPs... it's not about a set amount of time... it's about YOUR specific time. DH and I are dying to have a baby, but I am on BC to TTA until a few things happen: a) We have full Maternity Coverage on our Health Insurance (starting February '11), b) we are financially stable AND c) we have our OWN home and are not renting from my Grandfather (even though it is my Grandfather's home, we have to pay rent and utilities). But I would be lying if I said that we don't have BABY FEVER... but we got another puppy, and she keeps us VERY busy, so that should hold us off for a while