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Grandparents behaving badly
You'll appreciate this:
So my dad's dad who has the same brain cancer Ted Kennedy died from is still hanging in there but heading downhill fast. My grandmother who is in the same nursing home as he is recovering from a broken arm & wrist still refuses to go doen the hallway & see him. She is also still delusional she is going home, to a split level ranch, alone. Walker + 82 years old person + numerous stairs = EPIC FAIL.
Anywho, my dad, who is an accountant/insurance actuary (he's the guy in the hospital who figures out how much to pay people when doctors eff up) asks to see my grandparents' accounts so he can do their taxes. My dad & his brothers are all on the accounts. My dad notices a check for $17,000 & is like, WTF? Turns out his younger brother (#2 of the 3) bought himself a motorcycle. My dad asks my grandmother about this; she knew. And then proceeded to tell him this uncle is now her power of attorney since she does not want to go to assisted living & he won't make her whereas my dad & his youngest brother (#3) have told her repeatedly it is for her safety she go. BTW my grandfather has 2 union pensions plus tons of investments; they have plenty of money to pay for their care. Still, who @ 53 years old has their 82 year old mother buy them a motorcycle, especially when your own father is dying of brain cancer?
On the other side, my mom's dad (grandma died 2 years ago) who is a raging alcoholic apparently paid the property taxes of the girlfriend he met @ a bar last year: $5,000. This is the same chick who he went with to Florida last year for a month & didn't bother to tell anyone about & they ended up taking her goldfish with them in the car for the 3,000 mile round trip. They stayed @ one of her timeshares. Um, how do you have timeshareS (MULTIPLE TIMESHARES!) but can't seem to afford to pay taxes on your home? She also apparently helped herself to some of my grandmother's old Hummel figurines, which are worth a pretty penny.
My mother actually said to me the other day "Even when your sister was a teenager she wasn't this bad."
Re: Grandparents behaving badly
Family can suck.
(that's the same cancer that killed the Mr's grandfather, married to evil-g-ma-IL we're having similar-sorts of issues with)
I just a friendly gal looking for options.
My father has specifically told me to "smother him with a pillow" if he ever turns into his mother. She is the same woman who locked herself in the bathroom afew years back @ Thanksgiving when she ran out of gravy & had a massive anxiety attack. She's always been "special". Her husband is a saint for being married to that for almost 60 years. He was normal until last year when he got the brain cancer dx.
My mom's dad, as I said, is a raging alcoholic. When my grandma was alive she kind of kept him in line. Since she's been gone he's gone severely down hill judgement & health wise.
It's so sad the 2 reasonable ones (my dad's dad & my mom's mom) are gone or on their way out.