Article on age gaps between kids

SirenSong

We were discussing this the other day so when I stumbled on this article, I thought of you guys...

http://www.parenting.com/article/Mom/Relationships/The-Right-Way-to-Space-Siblings-For-You/1

Bonus link lol...10 tips for how to function after a sleepless night:

http://www.shoppingfortwo.com/blog/10-tips-on-how-to-function-after-a-nearly-sleepless-night/

I know that most of these were true for me, after I had Maya. I always made a point of getting into the shower, putting a decent outfit on (one I would feel fine walking down the street in at least) and putting on some mascara etc. It helped me feel more human. 

KShiz

It's an interesting convo.  I think we get sucked into a "right" way of doing things and the reality is, there is no right way.  There are pros and cons to each scenario.  You get through it, do your best and take the good with the bad.

Then you reply to a post and add as many cliches as you possibly can

On a "sort" of similar topic.  What do you guys think of the Duggars and their 19th baby?  I read the article in People this week, I knew that they were very religious, but I hadn't realized that they space out their pg's based on the bible!  40 days of abstenence after a boy and 80 days after a girl!  Who knew??

Married2MrWright

Thanks for the link to the sleepless night article.  It's getting better...Libby goes down for 3-4 hour stretches at a time now.  Yay!  But I am still not used to sleeping in short intervals.  It's better, and thank goodness I am not working so I only need to be able to function enough to feed Libby and look after her and maybe do some laundry, vaccuuming, etc. 

vanceandlori

Thanks for posting this... It is a conversation that hubs and I have been engaging in a lot recently. The "plan" was to try when Brooke turns 1 but it is coming up so quickly-- and yet i want my kids close in age. I am torn but like the pp said, there is no right way to do it. As far as the duggars go, I think they are absolutely insane! However, they DO live debt free (can afford the kids they have) so who am I to judge them? And after Brooke was born I really had to make an effort to feel normal again. Showering helped (I shower twice a day)... As well as putting some makeup on and not lounging in pjs all day (although I did this a lot too!)

SirenSong

Lori, I feel for ya hon. I think the sleep deprivation is one of the harder parts after you have a baby.

We now know why it's so effective when used as a torture method

K, I don't really follow the Duggars, so I don't know a LOT about them. I DO know that they live debt-free, which, good on them!

I think THAT many kids is too many in this age of overpopulation and it's effect on the environment. My stepmother's sister is pregnant with her 14th (I think she's up to 14 or 15 now...I lost track a while ago) and she just hands off the younger kids to the older kids to take care of, while she cares for the newborn (until she has the next kid). I have no respect for people that just 'breed' out of control like that. 

MrsZiz

I pretty much do most of those things they suggested about when you aren't getting much sleep. I feel SO much better after a shower, a little makeup and a decent outfit. 

As for the Duggars, I'm glad they can afford it BUT that's just TOO many kids! How on earth do you give them each one on one time? Do the parents know each child's fav food, color, toy, etc? Do they really know their children? I would highly doubt it. 

 

As for the spacing article, there's good and bad to each one and I can totally see each side of the fence. I think you ultimately have to decide what's best for you and your family and weigh the pros and cons of each. I LOVE each phase that Bella goes through and once I have the last kid (whenever that is), I think I'll be a little sad to think it's the last. BUT I'll also be a little happy because that will mean we're moving on to more outings, family fun vacations and a different kind of fun. We're thinking about TTC when she's 9-12 months. We'll see what happens though. It took us 7-8 months to get pregnant with her....  

MauidAims

Great article!