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She can not be serious.
So a FB friend posts notes like it's her job. Lady needs a blog.
Anyway, usually I ignore them, but yesterday there was one that was about "Need finance advice."
So I read it and basically it said she was actually looking for advice, not trying to share TMI. She said she and her H didn't always agree on things, but she wants to be a good, godly wife. Recently she's started making a few extra monies on the side from babysitting and photography. (SAHM with 4 kids.)
She said that she hasn't blown her money on outfits or anything, just things like ziplock bags, bread, milk or whatever for the family if the need arises beteween grocery store trips.
Y'all. She was basically asking if she was not being submissive enough to her husband, because she spent money she made on ziplock bags for.the.family.
Because her husband said so.
I get the whole man leads the household towards a Godlier (spelling?) family thing. I really do. I believe in God and am a Christian. (However, am very imperfect.)
Jaw meet floor. I almost dropped my laptop.
Re: She can not be serious.
I have to make the assumption that hubby wants it spent on something else. However, hubby's job (if you believe that) is to use it to further his family, not buy something HE wants for himself.
B/c is sure sounds like hubby wants a new tv.
Crap...I Mean Crafts
What? So her husband disapproves of her spending the money on ziplock bags? Unless her H is a complete a$$, there has to be more to the story than she is telling. Or is she just feeling bad for spending money without letting her husband pray over it and declare it worthy of ziplock bag purchases?
I just a friendly gal looking for options.
Duh. It's obvious she's being extravagant with the Ziplock purchase. She must've gotten carried away with those sinful green and yellow make blue commercials. Shameful.
She needs to really search her heart on this one. Perhaps she needs to move to a cheaper, fold over baggie.
Just my 2 cents.
How dare she!
Paul's epistles clearly state that she should use the store brand.
So if they're doing this whole "Man=awesome, woman=garbage" routine (and yes, that's what I think it is, and it's Paulian, not Christian), shouldn't he be making enough money that she doesn't have to spend hers on Ziplocks?
I mean, if he's giving her sht for that, she should give it right fcking back, because he's not doing his job.
I will say this, because I think it applies: I'm a SAHM. My husband derives a serious amount of pride and self-respect from providing for our family. It's something his father and stepfather were never able to do, and it was a goal of his, when he had a family, to be able to be the breadwinner. Call it quaint or archaic or whatever, but it's important to him.
Because it's important to him, any money I have coming in is understood to be MINE, for FUN. Sure, I buy stuff for him and Bacon, or spend money on eating out or movies or other fun family things, but if I HAD to have a job to buy Ziplocks? He'd consider himself a total failure. He wouldn't be telling me that I'm not a decent enough wife.
Bacon, I think they do the (very) submissive wife and man is head of house and decides how the grass in the front yard should be arranged. Her FB status tends to be scripture or how can she be more Godly, etc.
I believe he does actually support the family so maybe it is his ego that led him to that? She earned the money babysitting for friends/relatives/church members and doing photography on the side, because she enjoys doing that anyway.
I have no issue with SAHM or SAHW. My Mom was a SAHM for years when we were younger. (Until she divorced my crazy father.) My oldest sister is a SAHM and have a couple friends who are.
My issue is that she wasn't splurging and that they are so serious that it's not enough submission. A woman is a smart enough person to make that kind of decision, ya know? It's not like she went out a bought a car without them being a team and deciding what's best for the family.
Whatev. I'm not even sure how to word that. It just really surprised me.