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zsazsa-stl

I am just barely ahead of him now, but now that he works for the state and will be getting 1% raises every 8-10 years, I should be pulling ahead quickly.  I hope it doesn't cause problems, but I can see myself eventually feeling entitled to have more say in how money is spent than he does.  Oh well, I already carry the title of "crusher of dreams" around here.

baconsmom

We have only one income, but obviously, I brought home WAY more Bacon.

VarunaTT

Dammit, I hit the wrong button.  He does.

It caused an issue once and this was a long time ago.  He made the mistake of getting mad at me when I was trying to talk to him about him not doing his fair share around the house (and it was becoming heated) and said, I bring home more money.  I pointed out much cheaper I was than hiring a maid, a bookkeeper, a cook, and a hooker and then refused to do any of those things for a week.

He quickly apologized and really we don't have a problem with division of chores anymore.

Butter Cookie

FI is conscious of his spending. When we had separate bank accounts he was not, and it landed him in couchville a few times. The issue was resolved when we opened up a joint account. I technically make more, but he brings more home, but just barely. Neither of us has *all* say in how $$ is spent, but he does tend to turn over the big financial stuff to me. Which is good. Bills get paid on time. The account has never neared $0. He has a happy yoshi. And a happy yoshi is a bcbc friendly yoshi.

Wonderw1fe

I took the poll and then remembered I'm presently not bringing home any bacon at all. Ha! Oh well. I'm prepping for bacon in the future. Even then, though, he'll probably still bring home a lot more bacon than I will. Not that it matters. DH doesn't care about who's making more than who at all. We oddly enough don't have a division of labor problem either. I really lucked out with him.

mrs.conn23

DH makes slightly more than I do.  Once he graduates, I hope he makes a lot more.  There's no division of labor issues in our house for the most part. 

And the kiddo's old enough to do the stuff we don't want to.  HEE! 

Wifezzilla

in the past i've always made more than DH, until he got the job he currently has. i can make more with bonuses, though.

he sometimes enjoys the fact he makes more than me. he likes to be the one who is more likely able to treat our nights out.

baconsmom

I will say this, from the flip side: Neither of us is able to make large financial decisions unilaterally. I'm more likely to pre-approve things, simply because I don't make anything, and I spend too much. He keeps me in line.

He's also never denigrated what I do for the household. He sees my contributions as equal to his, which not only keeps him off the couch, but is a good example of partnership for Bacon.

Wonderw1fe

What's considered a large financial decision? He can't go out and buy a car without us talking about it, but if he wants a new TV or some kind of fancy appliance, he can get it w/out checking with me first. And when I had a job I could buy my shoes, purses and pricier salon trips w/out his consent. I don't do that anymore, but it's more 'cause I don't have time than anything else.

And to the "no time" point, lately DH has made all of the money and done most of the chores himself. Y'all, law school is no joke. I haven't had class since last Thursday and I've still been busy this week. I managed to stay on top of the laundry, but that's about it.

baconsmom

Anything over $100, I'd say. That's a lot of money for us.

Butter Cookie

We check each other for anything over $50 if it's not a grocery purchase or bill

nicoleg1982

We have a $100 limit, too.  However, H has made some redonkulously stupid purchases for under $100.  Stupid, crappy Dyson handvac.  ::grumble::

Wonderw1fe

Butter Cookie:

We check each other for anything over $50 if it's not a grocery purchase or bill

Oh. Y'all couldn't be married to us. Our limit really is a car or a motorcycle; something in the thousands of dollars.

E Squared

Evan has the budget all figured out, and we each get monthly allowances for our own purchases. Anything that is supposedly for the apartment and would come from our joint money gets discussed, regardless of price, since we don't have much of it.

We will get into 10-minute, well-reasoned discussions at BBB over measuring spoons. It's some of the most funny but banal schit EVER.

TheDuckis

I can't answer since I don't have an income, but H will always make more. When I was working he made 5 times what I did, and when I start working again the same will be true. This is what I get for choosing a hobby as a career path.

Since I don't work I'd say I do 85% of the chores, and I'm happy to do them. Our division of labor is pretty much split right down gender-stereotyped lines. He cleans the garage, fixes broken things, etc. I do the cleaning and the laundry. He does most of the cooking though.

I've really curbed my spending since I stopped working. I haven't bought clothes or shoes since we moved (which used to be a once-a-week thing for me). I do have a fair amount of self-imposed guilt over spending the money he works for on frivolous things for myself. But when we need stuff for the house or the dog, I don't really ask. We do discuss purchases over a couple hundred dollars.

zsazsa-stl

DH has admitted to me that he doesn't feel that he should have to check with me on purchases under $1K, but he knows that I will get mad if he doesn't, so he does.  I try to point out the number of times he has called me with a "Hey, I'm at Lowes and about to buy a $500 lawn mower, ok?"  and I remind him that we have one at home that is working just fine or that we have a 10% off coupon that he had better use.  He is very prone to impulse buys.  We have a garage full of <$100 purchases that he made in vain because he didn't measure first, forgot that we already had one, etc. 

NOLABridesmaid

I'm sure this will be interesting for me one day. I'm cheap, and I'm sure my future husband probably won't be as cheap as I am.

MinM

H takes in some earnings, plus student loans. Obviously, I make more. We theoretically, discuss anything over $100, but that is kind of silly. I could easily skirt that rule by spending $50 everyday, rather than blow $200 at Ulta, all at once. So, we really only discuss that we each need to spend less, and we let each other figure out how to do that. H just figured out how to kncok $40 off our cell phone bill, then I got him an iphone (and now we need to pay another $30).