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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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s/o Duckis and overkill
It's a cliche because it's true: the people who harass you about getting knocked up on their timetable will not quit just because you have a kid. If anything, it only encourages them. When we visited FIL after Christmas, he asked, "When are y'all going to give me a grandson?"
Oh, and please to be remembering that DD was 6 mo. old at the time. Yeah, no, despite the bumper crop of surprise pregnancies on 6-12 lately, we have no intention of doing 2 under 2. We don't even want 2 under 3 at this point.
It also made me a little stabby, like a granddaughter wasn't good enough, he wanted us to keep trying until we got a boy. This may not have been his intention, but he's old skool fundie sexist, so it influences what I read into him.
Re: s/o Duckis and overkill
When I was home my mom, dead seriously, said to me, "This isn't even about me. Your grandfather is 88 years old and he doesn't have much time left for great grandchildren."
Way to lay the guilt trip, mom. It's not unexpected, since I've been getting "this could be his last [insert holiday here]" for the last 5 years. My dad was awesome though. He gave mom a huge-ass eyeroll and told her that shouldn't even be one of our top 10 reasons to have children.
Crap...I Mean Crafts
Also, TD, if any family member has a health condition they'll use that against you.
My dad: "When are you going to give us a grandchild? You know, I'm not getting any younger. ANDZOMG, I have a heart condition!"
Good for your dad.
I always think it's kind of conceited when people think that grandparents are sitting around waiting for you to spawn. I mean, they lived this long without your kids, what's another few years?
I so need to give my family gold stars.
Grandpa has mentioned to me TWICE that he wants great-grandchildren. For an unhealthy dude in his late 80's who really DOES have a clock to run against, that's good. (although he has told my sisters the same thing--who tell him to talk to the MARRIED kid--that's me :-P)
But other than a few well intentioned sighs and glances, people are damn good.
My IL's don't even have ONE grandchild yet. My BIL is younger and no where near ready to settle down, much less dating anyone.
No pressure.
The go googoo gahgah over ever little cute baby/kid around us. I see those looks, people.
My parents have 7 grandchildren and make mention of it quite often. Apparently we would "make great parents." Hee
I'm afraid that my Dad will lay on the guilt extra thick when FI and I have a kid.
WHY WON'T YOU COME SEE ME SO I CAN SEE MY GRANDCHILD?
So this is the response I've prepared:
Funny, I don't remember you coming to see me in the 5+ years I've lived in CLT. Tell you what. You give me back all the years I missed with my father because I was inconvenient, and I'll inconvenience my life to come let you see him/her.
I get the "All of the other ladies in my quilting club have all these great grandchildren and I don't have ONE from ANY of my 8 grandkids!!! I'm 85 and will die without them!!" from my grandma. I usually just look at her and say..Sorry grandma.
What IS up with people wanting you to procreate? Unless you're coming to my house nightly to stay up with a crying crotch fruit, then don't pressure me.