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speaking of guilt, old people, and kids
we have officially decided we will tell evil g-ma-IL about little Beauford in about 19 year's time.
I'm sure someone in the family will find out. ANd tell her. But we're not telling her we're expecting, we're not telling her when the kid shows, and she's never going to have access to the kid
(yes, I do consider her dangerous. If she actually thought that by 'accidentally' dropping the baby, she could get attention? she'd do it. Several shrinks have basically told the adult family members to NEVER be along w/ her--she's homicidal and will physically hurt them if she gets a chance--actually, it was my dad pointing out that I'd never let her near my kid and that telling her about said kid was more 'rub it in her face'/'look, a grandkid you will never see, HA', than not telling her that I quit feeling guilty about not telling her)
I'm sure at some point, this will cause drama. They will all get over it.
Re: speaking of guilt, old people, and kids
Drama with who? Because there is nothing controversial about keeping your baby away from someone with homicidal intentions.
I just a friendly gal looking for options.
Oh, you know...the person who says "she's just an old lady w/ dementia"
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Because some people refuse to recognize that the woman is EVIL. Truly evil.
I mean, yes, she has dementia (as well as multiple personalities and narcissistic personality disorder--which she always had), but she was evil BEFORE that--but some people remember "oh, she made me cookies when I was sick that one time" and think we're overreacting.
The Mr. will have no trouble telling anyone who invites drama to go to hell--he will very explicitly explain what version of Dante's Inferno she should be in and why.
I mean, he called MIL to ask some medical-y questions about family health/miscarriage history last week...(BG, MIL was a twin. Twin didn't survive)...G-ma-IL, when she was asked about said twin when MIL was a child, told MIL that her twin was evil and satanic and no, they didn't have a grave to put flowers on, the bastard was in a jar in someone's lab 'where it belonged'. Way to scar a kid.
But Aunt M (MIL's Cousin) will probably remember something nice involving cookies and think we should be involved.
WIth any luck, she'll be locked up before this becomes an issue anyhow--there's another competency hearing coming up.
This makes me want to go hug my IL's, parents and Gparents. A lot.
Also, if Aunt M says anything tell her it's not her dayum child.