B-day invite?

sweetypie

I would like to throw my husband a birthday party at a local restrant like red robin or tgi fridays I was thinking of inviting some of his class mates & there wives. We cant afford to pay for everones dinner I am wondering how you would go about inviting them in a way that they new they would be paying for there own dinner.

 

6fsn

IMHO you have two options: host them in your home and feed them what you can afford or have a "happy hour" where you host appetizers and drinks. 

If it's common for your group to get together than do so, but don't send invites.  If you aren't really hosting the dinner, then there is no need for invites either. 

 

mandms08

6fsn:

IMHO you have two options: host them in your home and feed them what you can afford or have a "happy hour" where you host appetizers and drinks. 

If it's common for your group to get together than do so, but don't send invites.  If you aren't really hosting the dinner, then there is no need for invites either. 

 

Agreed. If you aren't paying, then I'd just say, "Hey, John and I are going to Friday's to celebrate his birthday. If you'd like to meet us there, you are more than welcome." No invites. 

Mrs.H.

You are not throwing a party if you expect others to pay for their meal.

I would suggest you host a small get together at home with a meal you can afford to serve.  OR....just invite some of them over for coffee and cake.

 

cwheels82

Maybe it just because my friends are mostly grad/prof students... but we do this kind of thing a lot for birthdays and everyone pays for themselves.  I agree that sending out an invitation is too formal.  We would just email something out like pp said like "help us celebrate DH's birthday at Fridays.  Let me know if you plan on attending so I can make a reservation large enough to accommodate a group" or something like that.  In my circle of friends, we would never expect that meant you were paying for food.

erine12398

Im throwing a party next month and was concerned about costs skyrocketing if people could have whatever, so I am doing a fixed menu of affordable appetizer type things, like sliders and wings. Everyone is getting  a couple drink tickets. The menu will still be available if they want something, but it will be implied that, it will be their responsibility to pay for it.