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no flowers? just wondering :)
Hey ladies! So I have a question for you. My FI and I have been together for a little over two years and in that time period, he's only bought me flowers twice. None were for my birthday, V-Day, or just because. I competed in local pageants so he bought me flowers.
I have hinted at him SO many times that I would love flowers. Even just a single rose. I don't care. BUT... he's always like "eh". He says that "flowers aren't his thing" or that hes "not into buying flowers". He never seems to get the hint though.
Have any of you experienced this? Kinf of silly, I know. 
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Re: no flowers? just wondering :)
i hate flowers. Last time DH bought be flowers, the whole vase got thrown in the trash the day he bought them... he learned his lesson since then.
ANYWAYYY... if you want flowers, buy them for yourself. You don't need a man to do everything for you!
I dont know what kind of "hints" your giving him... but if you really want HIM to buy you flowers, just flat out say "it would really make my day if you bought me a rose.. they're my favorite flower!"
If you do that, and he still won't do it... i'd consider finding another man.
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late last night we were picking up a few things in the grocery store and I saw a few small bouquets. I coughed in their general direction and DH looked at me funny. I then pointed, tilted my head in that direction and coughed again. LoL he then said "oh" and picked up a bouquet, held it out to me and said "will you be mine?" I said yes. When we got home he presented it to me with a card. It was just 3 roses (for $10)! but as I was putting them in the vase I said to him "just so you know, I like flowers once in a while" and he said "ok i'll keep that in mind"
See he comes from a family where his mom does NOT like flowers AT ALL so he just doesn't think about it. Now he knows that I would like them sometimes, but you do have to hit them over the head with it sometimes.
I actually told him that for a wedding day present I wanted him to send me flowers to my hotel room while I was getting ready, and he sent a huge bouquet of 2dozen roses....
Buy them for yourself.
Have the florist sign his name to the card, if that makes you feel a little more romantic.
... he's always like "eh". He says that "flowers aren't his thing" or that hes "not into buying flowers".
Next time he wants a BJ....tell him "eh, they just aren't my thing, I'm not into giving BJ's!"
This is what I was thinking, too. It shouldn't be about him ONLY doing things he wants to do. Sometimes it's about doing things for those you love, even if 'they aren't your thing'. Especially something as simple as buying her flowers because he knows SHE enjoys receiving them.
However, I do agree with PP's that you should'nt hint it, just flat out tell him: I know you may not be a flower person, but I like getting them, especially from you, every now and then. Some people are just not good with hints.
i rarely get flowers because "they die."
besides he knows if he wants to get me hot and bothered he brings home new kitchen utensils. ( i love to cook) just the mere mention of la crueset...mmmm
lol he is very practical.
this.
This is what I was thinking, and you already wrote it out beautifully.
If you want flowers, why don't you pick up the ball?
Tell him that starting with next holiday/special occasion, you're instituting a "wish list". You make one and he makes one. Each of you puts down 2 or 3 items you wish to get.
Your problem should be solved. Who knows? Maybe he'd like a tool kit or a pair of tix to a sporting event or what have you and you never knew this.
Okay...first off, I love my husband, but he is sometimes a dumbass and he certainly doesn't get "hints". We have been together for 6 years, and while I still sometimes get annoyed that he doesn't pick up on hints, I have also learned that I sometimes just need to tell him. He is happy to do things that I want him to do, but I have to tell him and then back off and not nag him about it. He'll usually do it within a few days...(Not right away though...I think he feels like then it is his idea...whatever
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That said, he will occasionally surprise me. The other week I was having a terrible week, so he came home on Thursday with flowers for me. Then he proceeded to say, "Well, after 5 years of you teaching, I have learned that there are certain weeks that you are just hell to live with, so I thought this would make you better." Gee, thanks.
Moral of the story: Even when they try, they can still screw something up...we need to remember to appreciate all of their efforts even when they fall short of our expectations
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I don't get flowers all that often either, but when I do I feel that they mean more to me. Getting something you love all of the time doesn't make it as special.
I got flowers Friday and he remembered that I said I loved pink roses (I said this probably about 6 mos ago). I got pink and red roses. I probably won't get them again for another 6 mos, but the fact that he remembered what I liked made them special.
Stop hinting. There is no point in hinting. Just tell him what you want. If you've flat out said this is what I would like and he still doesn't do it, then there are bigger problems.
I've never had this happen, because when we started dating I told The Husband that I wasn't a big fan of getting flowers because they die so quickly and tend to make a mess. Now he buys me Chuck Norris merchandise (posters, books, calendars, etc) for the events most guys would purchase flowers.
Probably doesn't sound terribly romantic, but it makes me happy!
I'm the kind of "do it for yourself girl" so I don't get flowers often these days. However I've always been floored when G has gone out himself and picked, or stolen flowers.. and sometimes weeds for me. He is a student so not to much cash flow.. and frankly it means more then $30 roses for me.
Maybe for you it's about the gestures of flowers, not so much the buying. Maybe hint that it would be cool if he stole some roadside daffodils.. they're coming up soon enough!
I find it irude that candr09 threw the flowers she got from her husband in the trash the day he bought them. Who does that it's rude, and mean and dumb. I think it's ridiculous she is telling you if he dose not want to buy you a flower then you need a new man. Clearly she does not know what she is talking about hope you ignore her.
my advice is just talk to your man tell him even though he does not like flowers that you do and would appreciate it if he got you some
good luck girl
Bingo. I couldn't have said it any better myself.
This is pretty much indicative of how your relationship will be. If he's this self-involved about some flowers, even AFTER you've told him... Well, you're in for one heck of a ride. You're not married to him. Or even engaged. You can find someone out there who will be everything you could possibly imagine and more. Honestly. Don't worry about "wasted time" or any of that crap. The only time you'll be wasting is continuing in a relationship where your SO doesn't care about you or your feelings.
Wow...you're a treat huh? First the flowers, then the necklace. If I were your H, I'd give up. And probably consider finding another woman.
holy cow, you are a serious b!tch.
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trust candr09, her brutal honesty is going make her trewluvlast4eva.?
I am sorry he didnt get you the flowers, does he know you like flowers on special occasions or did he get you a different present?
For V day I set a 35 dollar limit as I know my FI would buy something expensive I would love, and he told me what he almost bought and yes I would have loved it.
I said lets be creative and it has to be art and you have to buy something you know the other person wants/loves.
I got something amazing and a bag of dark chocolate M&Ms, which sounds stupid but I once told him it was a holiday tradition of my families to get me M&Ms because I love them so much, I was so touched he remembered.
Start or continue or do some sort of tradition that is just for you two, if you like flowers tell him what kind, my FI asked me awhile back what my favorites were, and he guessed "roses?" I said nope Tulips. So every so often he gives me tulips for our occasions. Its wonderful. I give him a specific category of gifts that he likes...and he is always so excited.
You're a special sort of a beotch, aren't you?
If I were your husband, I'd consider finding another woman.
I second that emotion, SLA.
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