Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Awkward Dinner
Last week, we planned to have dinner with H's ex-g/f (J) and her wife (B), but H got stuck at work and we rescheduled to this past Saturday.
Let me just preface this by saying that I have no issues with J and B being a couple. I think they're both lovely, kind people. And I really hate that they can't have a recognized marriage or adopt in FL - both really boil my blood. I also understand why, after 8 years, H and J are still friends. We all got along really well.
Awkward. First, J looks nothing like she did 10 years ago, so I walked right past her when I first entered the restaurant. I've only seen her in old photos. She grabbed my sleeve and said, "Nicole?" B looks like Jabba the Hut (sp?). I've never met a more sloth-like person in my entire life. Maybe she has some medical issues, but ol' girl could've walked a little faster and eaten more quickly. Also, there's nothing about B that would make me say, "Oh, I understand why J switched from peen to vag." Or anything that didn't make me want to *v when I looked at her. And no, Bmom, it wasn't b/c she was more than a size 12. I honestly have not seen a less attractive person in a long time.
There was a lot of good convo between the four of us (DD didn't contribute much). The awkward highlights were J and B saying they'd worn out their old bed and had a new one delivered Saturday morning. Wouldn't have been creepy if B hadn't said, "Ya know what I mean? <wink!>"
On the topic of adoption/babies, J asked me some ?s about our hospital stay, etc., and I mentioned circumcision being a cash business. Then H busts out with the comment that he'd want his son to match, so OF COURSE we'd have a son circumcised. B says, "OMG. I so didn't need to know that." H says, "Well, 66% of the women at this table have seen it for years at a time, so I didn't think it was that big of a secret."
There were also some awkward pauses when J and B were discussing sperm donors, getting pregnant and having adoption issues. J's parents really gave her a guilt trip when we had DD - they said, "That could've been you!" so I know that stuff weighs on her mind.
Ffwd to the end of our 3 hour dinner, as we're leaving, B said, "I'm really looking forward to getting home and celebrating Vday in our new bed." Seriously, Jabba. I'm glad you have a healthy sex life, but FFS I don't want to hear about it.
It's not something we'll do 1x a month, but it was nice to visit with them.
Re: Awkward Dinner
I just a friendly gal looking for options.
::Nods head in agreement::
Also,
at those comments.