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PCP/TTC Wednesday
Updates?? Who's got 'em?
QOTD: Have u guys discovered polyvore.com yet? (I apologize in advance for getting you addicted 
) Its a super fun and easy website to create "idea boards". And, it happens to be wonderful for dreaming about future nurseries! here's how mine came out:
Show us yours!
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Re: PCP/TTC Wednesday
My updates aren't too substantial, but I have had an especially bad case of botb this week. We saw our friends with the infant (he's already 7 1/2 weeks!) this weekend for a picnic at their house. Since momma was running around cooking and entertaining I was happily on baby duty. And do you know, every gosh darn person who came to that picnic made some sort of comment about how "it looks so natural" or "you already look like a mommy" ect. One person even asked me if he was mine (ummm, you're attending a picnic at these people's house, shouldnt you know who their child is??). Very sweet, but also felt like a small dagger to the heart. Whenever I'm around him or our other friends' babies, it just feel so right. Like there is a little something missing if i'm not cooing to a sleepy baby or have chubby little fingers tucked in my hand. ::sigh::
Just before the picnic, andrea and I had another good talk about TTC expectations/timelines ect. She's decided that she doesnt want to start fostering until we're at least pregnant in an attempt to limit as much stress as possible during the TTC period. She's good with starting the certification process any time, though. As for when we'll TTC, she's 100% comfortable starting tomorrow if and only if we're financially ready. So, after the wedding craze, we'll sit down and analyze finances and set a date!
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Well K is talking about babies more and more. In fact last night she watched some tv show about troubled pregnancy and she told me it scared her and made her worry about our kid. It was cute the way she already refers to our non existent child as 'our kid'. Anyway....we're definitely looking at December as the TTC cycle #1. K wants me to request a picture of a particular donor and then we'll go from there. She shocked me by saying she's willing to try at home inseminations first and that the decision is really whatever I want.
As for being financial ready, unless we win the lotto it will never happen. ;-) Our parents made a lot more work on a lot less than we have. We've really figured out a great working budget and K is teaching enough classes this fall and spring to secure us regular income. I however am actively going to start looking for a new job. After the review yesterday I realize I'm getting screwed. Part of me wants them to just fire me so I can get unemployment, TTC and then get a new job.....but I know that's unrealistic. So the job hunt starts now with my top three requirements - 1) treat SS couples the same as HS couples 2) fertility coverage 3) pay.
Oh and my botb is super bad! My bf just sent me a text that her mother just bought something special for my 'future baby'. So cute, but absolutely no help in curing the botb. :-)
We still have not told my parents that we are definitely going with the midwives. My dad is a gyn (used to do OB) and got extremely upset when we said we were considering it. He gave us a 30 minute lecture on why we are making the wrong/irresponsible choice. Needless to say, during that conversation, I felt like I was 6 and could hardly speak.
Elise and Janet - very exciting updates! You are so close :-D
Elise - thanks for introducing me to a new toy!!
On our PCP front, C starts her new job on Monday, which means the seed money should be in our hot little hands in a matter of weeks. We still have CC debt to pay, but it should only take 3-4 months and the seed money will be building interest in the meantime. It's going to feel so incredible just to know it's there!
I don't know how truly PCP this is, but to me it's all part of the same thing so I'll share anyway - C and I have decided together that I need to transition to part-time work. Hating my job, and being gone 8-6:00 M-F becuase of it is really taking a toll on me. I am very comfortable with our timeline of starting TTC next summer, but being miserable in my work makes it feel so far away and depresses me. I want to be in the right state of mind when we start TTC and being miserable until then isn't helping anyone. If I can work part time, I will at least have more time to devote to the things at home that matter much more to me. As a bonus, being home more will make us much better canidates for dog adoption. I'm just now starting the craigslist scouting - wish me luck!
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
Good Luck Brit! Makes perfect sense to work PT if you can. If K had a full time job I would just work my night job. I'd love extra time in the week to get the house together, run errands, walk the dogs, etc.
We went through a roller coaster last week. On Wednesday I had a positive pregnancy test, which was confirmed by my beta on Thursday. I had a repeat on Saturday, and the HCG number dropped. By Monday I was back to a zero. Not pregnant. So now we are just waiting for my next cycle to start so we can try again.
This whole process is so up and down. But Carol has been amazing through it all. Makes me realize how lucky I am even without a positive.
~Kennedy
Janet - thank you! Good luck with your search too - we can compare notes :-)
Kennedy - I'm so sorry to hear about your rollercoaster, it must have been heartbreaking. Best of luck with the next cycle - I'll be thinking of you!
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
Kennedy-- So sorry to hear about your rollercoaster week. I am glad that Carol has been there for you. You are certainly lucky to have such strong support from each other.
Elise-- I loved your description of the picnic. I need to find me some hostess-mommy friends so I can be on baby duty! Sounds wonderful!
Janet-- You made me lol with your lotto comment. That is so true for us too! We should start a PCP/TTC lotto pool!
bklyn-- Glad all is well. Best wishes for your 20-wk ultrasound coming up!
Brit-- That is awesome that you are able to transition to PT. Long hours are the worst (like you, I'm gone a lot-- 7:15 am to 7 pm M-F-- it sucks). Good luck with the dog adoption!
QOTD: I've never seen that site, but I can see how it could suck you in!!
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
As for us... No updates here other than the job thing (which will delay our start date from this fall to ??).
Sylvia was so cute this morning. We were talking about the whole "dress for the job you want, not the job you have" idea, and she said "so I should put a receiving blanket over my shoulder and walk around work pushing a stroller?" *grin* I love that woman!
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
love it! :-)
we have our consultation with the re next monday. i'm excited and a bit nervous. we've narrowed the donors from 62 down to 12 and are working on getting it down to just 1. i'd like to get it narrowed down to 5 at most before our appointment and get the expanded profiles for them (we have to pay for them after the first one or i'd just get them all now), but i'm not sure if it'll happen.
our bathroom project is well underway and we've been making great progress, which was one of c's ttc to-do items--although really she just wanted to have it demolished by the time we started and we're well beyond that at this point.
i'm totally going to have to check out that website when i get home...
OMG... cutest comment ever!!
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
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Lets see... not too much new to report here. Just continuing to work on the guest bedroom/future nursery. Its definitely going to take us a bit longer then we thought, but I think we are back on track now, so hopefully not too much longer. Otherwise, I'm enjoying the fact that I'm birth control free for the first time in 7.5 years! Hopefully he'll want to do away with those pesky condoms soon too.
Otherwise, I'm still in BOTB overdrive... everything for me seems to come right back around to babies. I'll definitely be playing with that website some!
Maybe I don't have a heightened sense of smell, but I've never smelled any vagina on my pants. -- TSD
Bloggity Blog - You know you want to...
nothing new for us...aside from ordering a bottle at janet's urging
but it is just me, or is the entire east coast pregnant this year? I swear there are a dozen expecting mom's on my train!
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sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer