Why is it?

**O-Face**

That once you say you won't have something, it's immediately what you want?

nicoleg1982

Well, you made a stupid decision to give up sugar.  I don't know that logic plays a part here.

**O-Face**

It's not stupid. 

 

You're stupid.

nicoleg1982

Agreed.    I wish I could give up sugar some days, but I love it too much.

baconsmom

Because humans are wired that way. It's why restrictive diets for weight-loss seldom work: we want what we can't have, and we will respond to deprivation with over-indulgence. They just did a study about this - lemme see if I can dig up some of the coverage on it.

I know from personal experience that once I stopped limiting myself, I stopped over-eating anything. Since I can have anything, any time I want it, there is no reason to "eat the world" when I get the chance. It's made a HUGE difference in how and what I eat, and I feel so much better, mentally and physically.

**O-Face**

Sugar does not love me, so basically it's a one way street.  It makes me a royal b*tch, or MORE of a b*tch, so I'm boycotting.

 

I'll show YOU who is boss, SUGAR!

baconsmom

I have the same relationship with junkfood, O. I want it, but it does not want me. I try to remember the end result when I'm craving - and experiment with making the same stuff, only at home, out of real food that won't make me feel gross.

MinM

It's called psychological reactance - we want what we can't have. Mom and Dad say you can't date Snake because he is a bad boy...and how do you respond, with a greater desire to bang Snake. You tell yourself you can't have a Snickers bar, and then all of a sudden, you can't stop thinking about it. Like BMom said, we want what we can't have. If you say, I can have this and I'll eat some until I am satisfied, it is likely that you will eat a snack sized bar v. a king sized bar. King Sized Bar = fuckyou, I'll do what you want neiner neiner neiner butts. Snack Size = my, that was as good as I thought, I was glad I had that.

/my two cents 

**O-Face**

I'm not restricting for weight loss.  I'm restricting because it sends me on a high-low rollercoaster that is not good for me.  It messes with my emotions, man.

MinM

Still, your telling yourself you can't have it for some reason (weight loss or other wise - that was just an example). In moderation, it'll probably be OK. Even restricted amounts. Humans get in trouble when they are refused anything, by anyone, for whatever reason (even if the reason is good for us).

baconsmom

Oh, I didn't think that, O - that's just the research I'm familiar with, for obvious reasons.

And Min, I hereby forbid you from saying good things about yourself. No longer allowed. Evar.

**O-Face**

I have a problem with moderation MIN. 

nicoleg1982

**O-Face**:

I have a problem with moderation 

Same here.  It is the reason I made a pan of brownies and a batch of choc. chip cookies VDay weekend.  And ate them all by Sunday night.  H helped, but I was the most guilty party.

**O-Face**

I will stand there eat an entire batch of cookies WHILE baking them.  It's awful, and I can't even blame a little on H.

Sugar is the only thing that triggers this behavior.

MinM

I have a hard time with moderation, too. I am an all or nothing kind of gal. That's why I trick myself....just like BMom is trying to trick me Loves it.

Butter Cookie

Oface, all sugar? Like, will you still eat fruit, etc? Or just sugar like white sugar?

**O-Face**

I can have fruit or honey, just no processed sugar.  No brown sugar, etc.

Butter Cookie

That's good. There's sugar in oranges, but they'll keep you from dying of scurvy. hth!