Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Embarrassing Sex Question - Sex Without Condom
So, this is terribly embarrassing, but I need some advice. My now husband and I started dating when we were 19 and just got married (we are now 27). We are each the only sexual partner the other has ever had, so our experience is limited to the following. The entire time we were dating/engaged, we used both oral contraceptives and condoms 100% of the time as he was a student in college and then medical school and we did not want to risk getting pregnant. Now that we are married, we are using only oral contraceptives. The sex itself is great, but what I am having a slight problem with is the messy cleanup afterwards. Using a condom, everything is captured when he climaxes, but now there seems to be mess dripping and if I do not run to the bathroom immediately upon getting up post-sex, I end up with semen dripping down my leg. This probably seems naive and silly, but is this normal? Is there any way to make things a little less messy?
Sorry to get so personal, but your advice is appreciated!
Re: Embarrassing Sex Question - Sex Without Condom
Yeah, I am not a fan of the mess either. And somehow, no matter what I do or try, it is ALWAYS on my side of the bed, which is funny, because we barely sleep on DH's side... we should really work on that.
We have "the sex towel". I have a couple and wash them regularly, just cheap towels from K-Mart. We keep in the nightstand for cleaning up and lying down on to avoid the wet spot.
"Glitter is the herpes of arts and crafts. It stays on you forever."
Thank you soo much! It makes perfect sense, but since we always used condoms before I never had to deal with it before. My husband and I have had many conversations about how neither of us would ever have been able to have a one night stand because that is just a little too messy/personal to share with a stranger!
Thanks for helping me feel a little bit more normal about this whole thing!
I think my husband watches too many movies like that! He hates that I feel the need to go to the bathroom as soon as we're done and thinks it's weird that I'm so bothered by his slimy mess dripping down my thigh and creating a wet spot. I've tried to compromise, so now I just clamp my legs together for a few minutes of cuddling before scurrying to the bathroom, but it's not very enjoyable cuddle time for me. :P
BFP on Jan. 18; EDD Oct. 1
Same with my husband! he always laughs that I dash off to the bathroom 2 seconds after. While I was pregnant I got so used to running to pee after to avoid infection that its just the way it goes.
My husband isn't much of a cuddler, so we don't really have that "come back to bed and snuggle" problem.
Ah yes, the two-hour-later-I'm-still-leaking pantyliner! Gotta love those!
Totally normal, and I might be funk nasty but it's never really bothered me, mind you no one has ever made me feel like it should bother me.
I once dated a guy that after each session he would get up, clean himself off int he bathroom, then bring a lovely warm towel and clean me off! Talk about caring and attention - we loved the flavoured lubes to so I was usually oiled from head to toe so the warm cloth realy helped with that.
If any of your BFs or DHs think its odd for you to jump up and run to the bathroom - maybe they'll like the idea of taking care of thier woman with a nice warm cloth - I always found it was really sweet and kind of bonding, he made the mess, he helps clean it up..
I am wierd tho - and might be a sex addict.
It's normal, keep a towel on the bed or a smaller one handy on the night stand. Do it on his side of the bed so he gets to sleep in the wet spot.
H would get up post sex, get a warm damp washrag and 'do the honors' of wiping me down. He knew the messy stuff bothered me and said he'd rather do this than see me jump up right afterwards running to the bathroom.
It was really sweet of him and made me feel rather pampered and extra cared for.
Maybe it's just me, but this seems pretty a$$hole-y. I'd totally have to be on top and sit on his chest/stomach/leg after he finishes so it all leaks out on him. See how much he likes it.
Just lay on the towel while you are having sex...And then tuck it up, like a diaper....You can cuddle and stay dry.
At least it works good for us!!
lol, seriously not like the movies AT ALL. in the movies they both climax and cuddle and everythings seems peachy..IRL...we're cleaning up and whiping down, not cuddling afterwards right away and making sure its not getting everywhrere
This. I always run right to the bathroom to clean up. Husband does too.