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How often?
DH and I were talking last night about how often we have sex. I was joking around saying that I'm going to start making appointments with him to have more sex.
We were both saying that we think we should have it more often. However, he is saying that he is more than content with everything. He says that he loves sex when we have it but it's not something he craves all the time. He also mentioned that if I want it more often, then he would be more than happy to do it more.
But I don't necessarily crave it more, although, I can get in the mood easily every day if he just initiated it. Our relationship is great on all levels, and we literally play together anywhere between a half hour to an hour in bed almost every day. It just doesn't always lead to sex.
I'm perfectly content just like he is, but I always feel like we should be having sex more. Currently, it's like once a month. I don't know if this is some image I have in my mind of newlyweds or if some people have less sex than others.
I figured I can get someone else's perspective on here.
Re: How often?
Only once a month?!
Well if you are both content then I'm happy for you! I could not live off that. Must be fun play time everyday tho!
I'm a firm believer in you have ot effect change, if you want something to be differen't you have to make it happen. Sometimes things are good as they are. Don't let anyone elses numbers dictate.. after all just because girl X has slept with 35 guys and girl Y has slept with 19 doesn't mean girl Y should sleep with more.. get me?
Once a week for us - and that's a good week.
We are 1-2 times per week. Both of us would LOVE to have sex more often than this. We are just both tired from working, DH runs his own business and I have a sleep disorder. (e.g. real life gets in the way of your hot fantasies)
So, we schedule sex. I know it sounds terribly unromantic, like a grocery list on the fridge. But really, it's not.
Our outstanding sexy time is either Sat afternoon or night or Sunday afternoon or early evening. So, the anticipation is something that I get to look forward to all week.
Also, DH is one of those guys that was always shy around women and so this helps him to initiate sexy time. One happy spouse = other spouse much happier as well. It is understood that with few exceptions, we will rearrange our schedules to make this a priority. And, really, knowing your DH gave up quality time with the guys or turned off a football game so that he could pleasure you in bed is one of the best emotional turn ons that I know.
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Weekend sexy time is slow with lots of teasing foreplay and cuddle time afterward. We'll do some type of bonding thing afterwards, like make dinner or have a discussion we've put off during the week, like a financial decision.
During the week, we will both try to initiate sex a few times. It is understood that either of us can say a "no thanks, I'm tired" without any hard feelings. If we do have sex, it is a quickie.
If one of us is tired, then the other partner will often be willing to give the other a little oral attention, a little manual attention or just be an active snuggler/toucher during a masturbation session. Sometimes, though, the 2nd partner is tired or burnt out from the week and a little self love is the best way to go.
Sorry so long, but maybe that gave some perspective.
Were at about 3 times a week.
But it's whatever works for you two...