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**adpilove**
Hey, lady! I don't have any really good work stories, but I have created a new project for myself.
One of my coworkers is a total Negative Nancy, she's known throughout the office for it. You're a pretty positive person, so I'm sure you understand how frustrating that can be! The other day she noticed that I have a space heater under my desk and said "Oh, you're lucky to have that heater. My desk is so cold that I had to wear my coat yesterday." Whatever! If it's that cold, you know what you do? You get a #*$&( space heater!
No matter what happens, even if she's trying to say something good, she twists it into a reminder of something bad. Like, if it's a beautiful sunny Friday, she says "Well, at least this weather today is better than LAST week... I thought it would never stop raining." When I complimented her new haircut, she said "It was supposed to be completely different, she really messed it up." Umm... okay then. Sorry it looks nice? When I think about it, it's kind of amazing the way she does it every time.
So amazing, that my new goal is to never say anything negative to her at all. I'm trying to see if my relentless positivity will override her relentless negativity until, finally, she says something good. About ANYTHING. Last time I saw her in the restroom, we were washing our hands and I said "I love this new building, the water gets hot in no time." (in our former office it would never warm up). To which she responded, "Oh, you should try it in the morning, it takes forever. Eventually I just gave up." Throw me a bone, lady! So I said "Well, it's hot now, and I'm happy!".
Wish me luck! I think this will be fun 
Re: **adpilove**
OMG, one of my best girlfriends is the same way. Its so daunting and so miserable to be around. She's been single for many years now and just hates the whole idea of it. Knowing her for 16 years now, she was not like this before. I think this "being single thing" has taken its toll on her and she's so miserable about everything in her life. I have suggested other forms of trying to meet men (you know, other than meeting at a bar), and she flies off the handle and tells me she doesn't want my help, or she'll talk crap about me to others saying that "Sarah just thinks she knows everything about a relationship." REALLY.........who's been happy in love for over 5 years now? Oh that would be me. I don't claim to have all the answers but so far what she's doing isn't working and I do know a little about changing your focus when things aren't going for you a particular way.
Oh its so frustrating. I completely agree with your stance about how you are handling her and staying positive. You're better than me, because by this point, I probably would have said, "Are you always this positive?" And then chuckled with a devilish laugh!!