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Sigh...so much for casual
So all my friends that have had 1st birthday parties for their kids have posted invites of Facebook. THis is what I want to do. It's first of all, free, second of all, quick and easy to do. So I called DH and read the invite to him and he said "you have to include mom and dad" we already booked the weekend with them when we saw them in Toronto. DH says "even though we already booked it with them if they find out that you sent a facebook invite and didn't include them they are going to be very hurt."
Problem with this? They would be horrified by a FB invite. They think it's super tacky. So today I am designing invitations to be printed and getting them into the mail asap. IT's going to sound terrible but I really don't know if I even want them to come. I would rather we all went out to dinner on Scarlett's birthday than have them at my house.
I love them dearly but they are super critical of everything DH and I do. On the weekend they had a talk with mom in which they said that they had never seen our house clean.
Each and every visit from them has been started with a weeks work of cleaning and scrubbing. They have only been to our house a handful of times. Each time some weird things have happened just before their visit or I have been in rough shape. They came here just after we bought the place and we were in kitchen demo mode. They came here for a visit in late May early June which means the entry to our house is insane with shad flies and the spiders that are there for the buffet. Seriously I can de-spiderweb the porch in the morning and by noon it looks just as bad as it did before I started, they came two days after I had Eye surgery so I shouldn't have been up cleaning but I was. And they came just after Scarlett was born and I was recovering from my c-section and they came for a visit just after I had my gall bladder out. My house was clean each and every time.
I have people over every week and mom told them this and they said "and their friends still come over with their house that messy?" My house isn't that messy when people come over, it may not always be spotless but it's at least tidy. So you can imagine that I don't want them to come over and see my place in party mode.
Re: Sigh...so much for casual
My FIL is like this and it's ruined our relationship. Partly because I just couldn't put up with it anymore and did have the fight. I find it VERY disrespectful and I deserve to be treated better in my own home. He apparently disagrees and feels that I can't take a joke. Saying maybe I would clean up more if is not a joke. It's a passive aggressive unneccessary comment. Even if it's true that my house could be cleaner - it's none of his business - he doesn't live there or pay the bills he doesn't get a say.
Sorry, I don't have advice, just I can sympathize. I do sympathize. For me it's at the point where it's never good enough so I'm not trying. If he shows up Friday at 7 p.m. guess what? The house isn't vacuumed and the bathrooms aren't spotless. I work 40 hours (plus) a week, commute 1.5 hours a day and have other things to do then clean all the time. Cleaning happens on Saturday morning, don't *** because you showed up before that. I guess it could be worse, I haven't told him to stay in a hotel if he wants maid service. I'm still just thinking it.
Oh look, I went back to venting. Feel free to call me if you want a *** session