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3/3-Togetherness
When you and your DH were first dating and before you lived together (if you lived together before you were married), were you together all the time?
Did you see him every day or every night? Talk on the phone everynight?
Me? Absolutely not. Seriously I would see him probably 3 or 4 days a week. Usually Tuesday, Thursday thru Sat. We would talk on the phone Sundays, and Wednesdays. It wasn't because of work or anything like that. I just don't want to see anyone every.single.day, unless I live with the person. Plus I had stuff I did on Monday nights and Wednesday and Sunday was my time. My friends would joke "You know when you get married, you have to see each other every day". I am just not the type of person who is attached to her husband's or (back then boyfriend's ) hip.
Besides, if you see each other everynight what the heck would you talk about on the phone? At least when DH and I spoke I could tell him how my past few days were and what I did.
Re: 3/3-Togetherness
When DH and I first started dating we saw each other everyday, but that was bc we were in high school and would walk to class together and have lunch. After school we only saw each other maybe 2 or 3 times a week. We usualy hungout on the weekends, but not always -- we needed friend time too. But we talked on the phone every day. I don't even know what we possibly could have talked about, but we talked on and on and on... I think that has lots to do with when we first started dating I was so shy, I could barely talk to DH face to face. So we just hungout and then I'd talk on the phone after haha...losers!!
For one year, we only saw each other every 2 weeks. Dh was in college an hour and a half away and I was still in high school. Every other week we would make trips to see each other, but I didn't havea car to take down, so it was quite a task. But we managed. We talked on the phone tons!
Once we were in college together, we saw each other everyday. We had some classes together and had lots of the same friends. Most of the time when we saw each other it was in groups. But I stayed with DH about every night my freishman year bc dorms suck. Then the next year we moved in together.
We didn't move in together until we were married, but we did see each other a lot... pretty much every day until I graduated and DH still had a semester of school. Then we still saw each other about every weekend and talked on the phone for hours every night.
When he got a job in Fairfax where I was living, his apartment was on the other side of town, so he'd come to my house after work, we'd hang out, have dinner together, and then he'd go home basically just to sleep.
Yes, from the day we started dating, we saw each other just about every single day. We worked together, went to college together, etc.
We were inseparable from the time we met. We just clicked.
We had our down time- we were seniors in college and had a lot going on with roommates and fraternity/sorority, and job interviews, etc. But yes, we usually saw each other every day, even at least for lunch with a group of people in the caf between classes.
I actually find it pretty tasteless that you say "I'm not the type to be attached to someone's hip." Being friends with your SO and hanging out with them as much as you do your roommates or friends isn't a bad thing.
Why is that tasteless? Some people are the type who get attached at the hip, some aren't. Why is it tasteless that she isn't and is unapologetic about it?
Maybe we read it with a different tone in mind, but I didn't gather that she thinks there is anything wrong with being attached at the hip, it's just not her style, and not what she wanted in a dating relationship.
We started dating in high school, and were together all the time, but it wasn't always just the two of us- we had a big group of friends that we spent time with. I was a grade ahead, so we spent my freshman year of college doing long distance. Once we were at Clemson together, we were together a lot- but again, we had a good balance between us and friends.
DH did a co-op during college, so we were long distance for a few months at a time, so we know how to spend time apart. We lived in the same apartment complex in college (didn't move in together until we were married) and were together all the time. We cooked dinner together, and spent time together in the evenings.
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I rolled my eyes at her tone throughout the last 2 paragraphs. It is hard to read tone in writing, but the wording sounded pretty pretentious, IMO.
Thank you, Mrs Z! Exactly, I don't think there is anything wrong with being attached to your SO's other's hip it's just not me. Granted if we had met during college or high school then yes, we probably would have been together all the time-but we didn't. We met in our 30's waaaay past college. I don't even see my friends everyday. The last time I saw friends (not coworkers who are friends) every single day was when I was in college back in the 90's.
What I was trying to say is that we didn't see each other every day/night immediately, but within the first couple of months we did. However, about 3 days a week he had rugby practice, so I barely saw him on those days, and we spent a ton of time with friends the first few years, so things never got boring, to where we wouldn't have anything to talk about.
Haha for a minute I thought OMG the SC board really has imploded! 27 posts in one topic! That must be a record :-P
I thought the same thing lol. I think this is the first starred post we've had.