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Oy vey.

My sister is getting married. ?Again. ?This will make her 4th marriage and I am really happy for her, because he's a wonderful guy.

Her friends threw her a little bachelorette thing last night, nothing too crazy (I couldn't make it since I've had this stomach thing and it was in NY) Anyway, they went dancing and one of her friends went up to the DJ and had him play "This Time I Know It's For Real", by Donna Summer.

Sis had had a few drinks by then and was none too pleased- when she normally has an awesome sense of humour. ?I thought it was kinda funny but I also understand why she was upset. ?She tends to get very irrational when she drinks and told the girl she doesn't want to talk to her anymore.

I told her she overreacted a little and should just give it a few days to let it pass. ?I said that I don't think what the girl did was very nice, but I think she was just trying to be funny. ?Now my FORTY-FIVE year old sister is ticked at me because I'm "not taking her side 100%". ?Sheesh. ?It was just a song. ?It's not like the time my friend's DH requested "Baby Got Back" for his wife at a wedding I was at! (I kid you not- he left alone that night!!) ? WDYT?

Re: Oy vey.

  • Geez, what the big deal.  Its just a song right?!  I think (and this is just the psych major in me) that there is some truth to what the song says and she probably feels thats what people see her as.  Hopefully she has found love at last. But I find that ppl get all up in arms when jokes like this happen because they find some truth in what the person is saying, or singing in this matter.

    She probably just wanted to hear from you, "ya your right, blah blah blah, no you didnt overreact" when she probably knows that she did a bit.  

     

    Alcohol amps everything up, right!? 

  • I'd say she needs to lighten up a bit - I think if I was on my 4th marriage, I would probably find some humor in the song...but you know what alcohol does to some people....give her some time, I'm sure she'll get over it...
  • I think that the song choice was pretty hysterical, and I think it is sweet that her friends threw her a bachelorette party even though it's her fourth marriage.  Some people just like to have "yes" people around to vent to.  I'm sure that she and her friends will, in time, appreciate that you tried to put things in perspective for her instead of fueling her self-righteous anger.
  • I think that if it were me getting married for the 4th time, I'd probably have that song played myself at the reception - KWIM? No disrespect meant to your sister, but it seems like she is taking herself way too seriously! As it was, I was the one who had the DJ at our reception play "Fat Bottom Girls" by Queen - because one of my friends and I love that song! It's not like nobody would have noticed that I have a big butt if that song hadn't played. Also, I can think of another moment like that which I WASN'T expecting.....and it also made me LMAO! My sister (the one who is already married, obviously) had us wear HOT PINK bridesmaid dresses and the thing was just not flattering on me AT ALL. I looked like a big PEEP! Also, I was a good sport when entering the reception and she had the DJ play "PINK" by Aerosmith (just in case anybody hadn't noticed the color - LOL)!
  • Yah, she's over it. ?Apparently, the hangover has worn off and she now sees the humour. ?She's a trip, that one.

    edited to add: she married my nieces' father at 17, was married for about 12 years and then married another guy- divorced him and then remarried him a few years later.
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