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Dangit man!
So I get a call last night from my brother. He says "hey can I inlist your help?"
I say, "yeah I guess so, what's up?". Then he tells me that his roomie is coming this weekend to empty out her house and move in with her unborn baby daddy. He says that his other roomie recommended a friend of hers that is a widow and has a spare room but its "waaaay out of the way and not convenient to anything." He then asks me if I can help him move. I say sure.
THEN.....
He asks me if he can just come stay with us instead because, as of right now, he isn't able to save any money and he is just working to pay bills.
Um....hellowwwwww....What the hell do you think I do?
He is 34, just got a promotion, drives a jaguar, has a college degree, works as a foreman for his best friends incredibly successful luxury home contractor company and "cant save".
Guess what!? I can't save anything either azzhole.
Some people's children man......some people's mother flippin children.
(sorry mom)
Re: Dangit man!
Ya told him NO to living with you right?
Dude - sell your car and get something sensible, stop spending money like a fool, and take responsibility for yourself.
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Um, I think my response would be "How about you get rid of the Jag . . . "
He already sold his motorcycle....isnt that enough LOL!
What the!!!! Ummmm if you're have trouble trying to save, say good bye to the Jag buster!
Selling that little kitten would probaly buy a nice normal person car and pay like 6 months worth of bills!
Trust me, I completely agree. But unfortunatley in the meantime it doesnt put a roof over his head. My mother did some severe spoilage of him and I blame it all on her. I love him dearly but I just want him to grow up some and spend his money a little more wisely.
When he moved back from Austin last May, he stayed with us for a couple weeks until he found a place. He wasnt contributing anything and the day I came home to he and his brand new Macbook was the final straw. I just don't want to deal with that b.s. again.
I think I would've broken the Macbook over his head.
I think I would've broken the Macbook over his head.
This would frustrate me so much! Doesn't he know you are struggling too AND that you also just moved and still have unpacking/cleaning up to do around your house? Grrrr.
Um yeah! This!
Yeah, he did for a little bit when old girl in Austin dumped him. His stay was shortened BIG TIME because of the mac purchase.
And Steph you are exactly right, we just moved, are still unpacking, and have surgery coming up. I'm just not up for all of this but my heart wont let me say no. Trust me, my head says I am flucking nuts.
I totally get it, Karrey.
I'm a sucker . . . especially for my brother. I would say yes in an instant, but maybe this time you should put some restrictions on the deal.
Maybe setting a timeline for him to move out again, making him pay rent, giving him chores, etc would be a good idea. Basically, if he wants to act like your child, treat him like it.
Although, I have to add . . .
I am the woman whose 24 year old brother lives at home (because we won't let him move out), and my dad makes his bed, washes and puts away his laundry, makes his meals, etc.
My family is still really old-school about our boys . . . they get babied until they have wives to do it.
This.
Personally, I would suggest he live in his Jag. Those cramped quarters might make him re-think his priorities.
I totally get where you're coming from, though. I wouldn't turn down any member of my family, or Redneck's family. Would it suck? Hell, yes! But I'd still do it.
THIS. I'm a sucker too when it comes to my brother.....he's my only sibling and one of my closest friends. Although he's 5 years older than me, I feel like the grown-up, responsible one sometimes. I don't think I could ever say no to him if I had the means to help him (unless he needed an immoral or illegal favor). Like Katie said though, I would lay down some ground rules BEFORE he moves in. Goodluck!
Let's hope I dont go crazy in this process!
You've got a big, big heart, doll. If anyone can manage it, you can
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