My condolences

plaidzipper

The SO of one of my really good friends passed away last night.  He has called me several times to talk, and I know that just being there helps a little, but I am at a total loss for what to say.  Has anyone been in this situation before?

notapetrock

If he's calling you to talk, then your role is not to 'say' but to listen. Tell yourself that you're there to help him bear the burden of his loss by hearing him out. Be honest - if you miss this person, say so, then let him take it from there. It will come more naturally than you think.

shyntrue

notapetrock:

If he's calling you to talk, then your role is not to 'say' but to listen. Tell yourself that you're there to help him bear the burden of his loss by hearing him out. Be honest - if you miss this person, say so, then let him take it from there. It will come more naturally than you think.

Great advice!  I have found that just listening to them helps a lot.

timmysgal1

I'm sorry for your friend's loss.  I have found that when my friends are in pain, I just listen.  I try not to add my two cents unless it's asked for and I tell them it's okay to be sad.