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So, the big "sit down" happened last night.
That's all I have to say about it.
Re: So, the big "sit down" happened last night.
TTC #1 13 cycles, CP 6/09, TTC #2 1 cycle
CDing, EP'd for 13 months for #1, BFing for #2
Pregnancy Hypertension - inductions at 39w, I grow big babies: DD was 9 pounds 1 ounce 22 inches, DS was 11 pounds even 22 inches - both vaginal deliveries
This! We need more details!
Well, this is how she decided to start off the "conversation".
MIL (said in a high pissed off tone) = "SO, wtf is everyone's issue? WTF is going on here huh?"
Myself, M, FIL stare at eachother confused, then look back at her, now, being as I wasn't about to even talk to her at all, M opened his mouth "Uh, WTF is YOUR problem, we haven't had any issues, you seem to be the one who has a problem with everyone"
MIL says "Listen, if I had it my way y'all would be outta here and I would move up north with or without your father" "I'm just trying to find out what my legal options are here" (apparently even though she brought up several times that her and FIL's issues are between them and none of our business,she couldn't seem to NOT tell us about them)
Then, the attacking started, she let loose on me with some crazy bullsh!t, first it was "YOU, everytime I'm around you are down my throat!" With a boggled face I look at her and say "uhhh, no, you're full of sh!t because I haven't talked to you in about a month and a half specifically to avoid talking and seeing you because you have been so on edge so I wanted to avoid saying or doing anything to piss you off" MIL = "So what are you saying you are scared to be around me?" Me = "HA, no! I just don't want to deal with your drama" no response from MIL. M butts in and continues to b!tch at her for about 10 minutes on how she has no right to say/think what she does about me because I haven't even been around her. FIL doesn't utter 2 words this whole time. Then MIL brings up how I talk sh!t about everyone behind their back, FIL butts in and says "First off, it's not "sh!t" if it's all true, so, no, she hasn't" I look at her and say "Oh, and like you haven't, you DO talk SH!T about EVERYONE in this house" MIL = "Oh really, since we want to "air everything out" why don't we tell your father how everyone talks about him behind his back, why don't we talk about how your father's an azzhole who can't tell him azz from his brain" M and I look at eachother confused and say "WTF are you talking about we don't talk about him at all" Me = "I've never had any issues with him ever, and IF I have said anything, it wasn't something I already said to him" M = "Same with me, anytime I've had an issue with Dad I've always talked to him about it" MIL = "Bullsh!t, you haven't told him everything" she continues to bring up "examples", yes, FIL already knew everything she tried bringing up. FIL gets fed up and slams his hand on the table and says "Listen, if people are talking about me behind my back, like I said, as long as it's the truth I really don't care, to hell with it, either way I really don't care, look at it this way if ANYONE is talking about ANYONE behind someones back WHO.GIVES,A.FLYING.FVCK!" M and I = "YES! THANK YOU!" No response from MIL.
She says she doesn't understand my problem, I told her the only issue with her I had with her was what she had said to SIL about not trusting me and me not being allowed in her house. She denied saying it (of course) M called her bullsh!t and told her to call SIL and her FI upstairs, she does and M asks SIL again, what was said, she repeats what we just said, MIL then says "I never said I didn't say it, I said I didn't say the last part", I said "Whatever". Then she tries getting me and SIL to go at it by saying "Well Jess, what about you 2 (pointing and her and I)" she says "What about us?" MIL = "Since we're 'airing it all" tell her what your issues are with her" SIL and myself = "We've already talked about and worked out our issues a long time ago" MIL = "Bullsh!t," looking at SIL "I know you didn't tell her everything, what about all the "Auntie" stuff she was putting on J?" I butt in "First of, you have no flucking idea what we talked about and what was said because you were there, we had a 3-4 hour conversation AT MY HOUSE a long time ago, so you have no idea what you're talking about, besides, for the record, YES she DID tell me about that stuff". MIL = "Well, good for you" (in a bratty tone). She then tried getting M and SIL's FI to go at it by starting the same thing with them, then brought everyone in on it and said everyone says bad things about SIL's FI, we say we've worked everything out, she again tries to call our bullsh!t then M told her SHE does NOTHING but say bad things about him and tries to say "If I ever have an issue with S I take it up with him" I laughed my ass off and called HER bullsh!t.
SIL puts her 2 cents in and looks at MIL and says "I don't know why it has to be like this but to me is seems whoever isn't blood when it comes to me and M it like this ::puts middle finger up::, it's like no one is good enough for me or M", no response from MIL. SIL = "I wish you would leave her and him alone (pointing at me and her FI), they've done nothing to you".
M went on to tell her how she needs help, she needs estrogen treatment, how she's not his mother, she needs to quit smoking to get the treatment, etc. MIL says "I'm not quitting, I don't want the estrogen and that's my choice, not yours" M = "But don't you see how you're hurting everyone?" MIL took it the wrong way and thought he was referring to second hand smoke from her smoking so she says if we don't like it to GTF out. When M corrected her she pretty much just said too flucking bad.
Needless to say, she made a fake apology to everyone (SIL and I both agree she only did it to shut everyone up when she realized she wasn't going to get her way). She tried saying what she said about me to SIL was "out of anger" when she was asked what anger, she couldn't answer, then SIL said "The day you said it nothing happened, you were in a fine mood you even said nothing happened when I asked you after you said it"
Anyway, we went home, M asked me if I was satisfied, I told him I would be when we get the fluck out. SIL came over to tell us how she thought the end was fake I agreed. SIL asked us what we thought would happen to MIL and FIL, I looked at them both and said "Listen, with all due respect, those are your parents, but your mother seemed to make it clear how she feels not only about us, but your Dad, I wouldn't be suprised if they divorce either before or after we all move out", SIL agreed and says she just wishes they would to put everyone out of their misery, M disagreed and says they both just needs help (which neither is willing to do, so therefore it just won't work).
That was the jist of it, I tried to sum it up as much as I could, we were over there for probably about 2 hours. I told M I still won't talk to MIL or be around her, he said he understood how I felt.
Wow, Sheri, she's crazy! I'm glad you're not talking to her.
How's the house hunting going?
Oi
Good luck house hunting!!! I hope the perfect one presents itself to you very quickly!
Toxic toxic toxic. Sounds similar to the conversations I used to have with my alcoholic mother. They never got me anywhere.
I hope you guys can get out soon. Maybe one day the relationships will heal and something better can happen but until then, I think you are right for avoiding it.
This.
Agreed. She's BSC.
I'm with Lore, how's the house search going? I hope you guys find something perfect soon.
And I truly hope the reason we don't 'see' you on here as much is cause you're house hunting!!! Get out of there fast!
Here are some awesome happy house hunting/buying vibes!!!! Wow...
Crap, I'd take that hideous lime green house just to get away from all this lunacy!
Good grief!
Ditto! KUP, babe!