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poll: ???loooooove???
Since I feel like I've been whining nonstop lately, how about a poll to make up for it? 
1. How did you and your husband meet?
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
3. What did you do on your first date?
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now! 
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5. Who said "I love you" first?
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)?
Re: poll: ???loooooove???
1. How did you and your husband meet? We worked next door to each other - he managed an internet cafe and I was a waitress at the Italian cafe next to it.
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating? A while...we met in....hmm...2002, but were just friends until 2005. Or as he puts it, "You were dating That Other Guy so I had to wait for you to come to your senses and go out with me instead."
3. What did you do on your first date? Heh, it wasn't really a date, as such. We were living in different cities and I flew to his for a visit...and I think we both had a pretty good idea of what was going to happen on that trip lol. I hadn't been to the ocean in ages though, so after I'd gotten off the plane and checked in at my hotel he took me to the beach - I guess you could say that's what we did.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now!) Ummm...like 7 hours?
Well my plane landed at like 3pm that day and by 10pm we were back at my hotel. *coughcough*
5. Who said "I love you" first? Me. On accident. It was actually that same night - I remember I thought it as I was falling asleep and then thought desperately to myself, "OMG don't say that, you'll freak him out!" He told me the next morning that I'd said it right as I was falling asleep so I guess my plan didn't work out too well - but hey, he wasn't freaked out!
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)? I suppose it was a gradual thing. I know this will sound odd, but before I even got on that plane to see him, I knew that if we hooked up, the odds were that it was going to be a permanent thing. We'd known each other long enough and knew each other well enough that I knew there weren't any mental or emotional dealbreakers, so as long as the physical side of things was OK (hehehe) then there was a good chance we'd stick together. Is that weird? That's probably weird...
1. How did you and your husband meet? We knew of each other when we were stationed together in California but we didn't officially meet until we were stationed in Texas. A mutual friend played cupid, we started talking in the gym and later that same night I ran into him at a bar and grabbed his butt as he walked by (note: I had a few drinks by that point).
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating? A few weeks.
3. What did you do on your first date? Went to Cheddar's restuarant - our favorite! And drove around the town... I was showing him around since he was relatively new there.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now! ) Hahahaha about two weeks
5. Who said "I love you" first? He did...
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)? I think when we decided to give long distance ago, knowing we would be apart for at least 2 years (ended up being 2.5). It just came to me that if I was willing to try to make this work, he definitely was the man for me.
BAHAHAHAHA you are awesome!
1. How did you and your husband meet? Online! (Yahoo Personals) I had been on there one and off for about two years....he had just signed up that week
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating? We emailed every day for two weeks, then talked on the phone twice before meeting in person.
3. What did you do on your first date? We met for coffee at Caribou. It turned into 5 hours, since neither one of us could stop talking.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now!) Third date. Our second date was the standard dinner-and-a-movie. Then. the third we went to the Art Institute to see an exhibit, then dinner, then my place......
5. Who said "I love you" first? I think it was me, but we have both been skirting around saying it for a few weeks beforehand.
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)? It was somewhat gradual (starting from that third date), but, honestly, I knew at about 2 months in. It was right before I was going to Japan for two weeks. The thought of being apart was agonizing, and I hadn't felt like that in years. When I returned, I "unofficially" moved in (we didn't really move in together for another year). And this was two people who were so guarded for many years. It just came very naturally for us, so I guess that's how we knew.
1. How did you and your husband meet? Online - through Yahoo personals
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating? We didn't know each other before we started dating
3. What did you do on your first date? Met at a Mexican restaurant then went to his house to watch a movie
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? First date
5. Who said "I love you" first? He did
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)? I honestly don't know.
1. How did you and your husband meet? I worked with his SIL. MH and her were BFF's and he called her at work one day and I was in her office. We put him on speaker phone and after 20 min of talking *** and laughing, he offered to take us both out for drinks that weekend.
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating? About 5 weeks. He was going to Hawaii for a football game the week following our out on the town night and a week after he got back, I was off to DC with my son and my mom. We lived about 40 miles from each other and we have our kids so it wasn't easy to hook up.
3. What did you do on your first date? We went drinking and bowling and I think we ate that night.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? First date
5. Who said "I love you" first? Had to have been me, MH is not all into expressing his innermost feelings with 'words', lol!
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)? I knew right away.
1. How did you and your husband meet? We went to college together and had a couple of mutual friends.
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating? We were originally introduced near the end of sophomore year. I was hanging out with a mutual friend and he walked past and we were introduced - although I already knew of him since he was fairly well regarded as one of the hottest guys on campus! (one I thought would never go out with someone like me). Then the guy I was hooking up with at the time - who was a real loser - came by and I went off with him. I wouldn't find out until years later that Tim spent the whole rest of the night thinking about me and feeling incredibly depressed that I was seeing such a jerk (that guy really was a jerk). Tim spend junior year abroad but when he came back senior year we started hanging out more and more until voila!
3. What did you do on your first date? Well, we had been "hooking up" as one does in college for a couple of weeks, but I don't really consider that dating. One night he called me up and asked if I was planning on going to some party but I said that I couldn't b/c I had a paper to write. He was so disappointed that he wouldn't get to see me that night that he asked me where and when I was handing in my paper and told me he would meet me there in the morning and take me out for breakfast. I think of that as our first date - breakfast!
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now! Wink) About a month after our first kiss.
5. Who said "I love you" first? I think we may have said it to each other together - I'm not really sure. He actually probably said it first. He is a passionate person!
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)? Spring break senior year my bff and I had planned a trip to Hawaii (where I'm from) for two weeks. We had an awesome time but we both really missed our boyfriends. Tim wrote me a letter (so sweet and old-fashioned!) towards the end of the two weeks that during my absence he realized that he was going to marry me some day. We'd only really been dating 3 months so it was quite a shock to me! We did get married - but 7 1/2 years after he wrote me that letter.
1. How did you and your husband meet? we went to school together
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating? 2 years. We were not close friends, but in the same close circle of friends and probably hung out (outside of school) at least once a week.
3. What did you do on your first date? went out to dinner.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now!
) about a week. We went on dates every night that week so I can say 6-7 dates 
5. Who said "I love you" first? he did. About 3 weeks after our first date and the night before I left to move back home.
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)? I knew right away and it was confirmed about 2 months after our first date. We met up in Vegas and he told me he planned to move to WA to be with me. He moved up 4 months later and we started planning our wedding for a year later.
great poll love all the stories
1. I was at a surf shop at a party he shaped boards for the shop-my friend who managed the shop gave him my number as i was leaving i also so happened to be wearing a shirt cut down to almost my bellybutton and he later told me that all the guys were asking who he was talking to.
2. He called me that night when i got back from several other parties we fell asleep on the phone and went out for thai food for dinner the next night
3. see above
4-about 6 weeks or so I was a wild one in my past life and at 34 i had made a decision to do things a little differently and not just hop into bed
5. he did-it was soooo cute-i was going home to NY for the weekend and he took me to the airport and we had my furbaby in the car with us so i could say goodbye to him at the airport=first time that i left my beloved furface with now hubby-he looked at the cat and said don't worry nicholas-i love your mommy very much and will take very good care of you.
6. more gradual not so much a eureka moment-my husband said he knew right away
Since I feel like I've been whining nonstop lately, how about a poll to make up for it?
1. How did you and your husband meet? Through a very dear friend. She knew us both for about 10 years before she introduced us. DH & I were both single at this moment in time and she turns to me one night and says..."I have the guy for" and to him "I have the girl for you"...the rest is history
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
Even though we lived a few blocks away from each other, it was almost a month. We talked on the phone for hours at a time and sent emails and cute ones like "getting to know you", though this I found out he had never received flowers.
3. What did you do on your first date? We went out for dinner and drinks and then saw a live band play. I actually gave him flowers (see above)
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now!
) Hmmm, probably a couple of weeks after.
5. Who said "I love you" first? I did
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)? I think it was year or so after, when we moved in with each other.
Awww.....from one cat lover to another....that is soooo sweet!
1. How did you and your husband meet?
At a mutual friend's birthday dinner.
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
4 months - it took him that long to ask me out! We got to know each other by talking on the phone and chatting online during that time.
3. What did you do on your first date?
Sushi for dinner and then Dave & Buster's. We played Street Fighter II - I'm pretty sure that's why he fell in love with me.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now!
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3 weeks? After our first date, that is. I think.
5. Who said "I love you" first?
He did. Only because I wouldn't do it until he did. I'm sure I felt it first, though.
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)?
I have no idea. I think I knew pretty early on that I could marry him.
1. How did you and your husband meet?
On HotorNot.com.
He sent me a message, and we started IM'ing soon after.
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
I think it was a couple of weeks.
3. What did you do on your first date?
He took me ice skating here in HI. He knew I had never done that before so he wanted to take me. I took a friend of course since this was the first time we met IRL.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo?
I think it was a couple of weeks.
5. Who said "I love you" first?
He did.
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry?
Honestly, there was one "eureka" moment about 2 weeks after we started dating. But I didn't really recognize it too much since we were 19 and I thought it was kinda silly to know something like that so early in life. But we knew, we both knew.
1. How did you and your husband meet?
My roommates threw a bbq one hot spring day. My co-worker showed up with his friend (my now husband). He was really quiet and there was something really intriguing about him. He was so polite and it had been so long since I had met someone like him. BUT.......I was dating someone else. Months go by, I dump boyfriend and my co-worker needs a place to live. I let him move in and that began the frequent visits from MH. MH joined our work softball team and it was right about then when I decided I needed to pursue him. One night a few of us played cards at my house and everyone went to bed except him and I. We stayed up until 6am talking. He left the next morning and I made the move to kiss him. Weeks went by of our group going out multiple times a week, so we got to hang out together/hook up. We finally went on a real date and the rest is history. Unconventional dating........
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
4 months
3. What did you do on your first date?
We went to dinner......nothing too exciting.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now!
)
Oh we were doing all that before the actual first real date. LOL. Like 2 weeks. I know we didn't waste too much time.
5. Who said "I love you" first?
Oh this was awful, but we were out one night with some friends about 3 months into dating. I had WAY too much to drink and as I came out of the restroom, he was standing there waiting for me and I just came out of nowhere and said, "I am so in love with you." I couldn't help it. I swear I loved the man hours after I met him. But he literally stared at me and walked away. I felt awful and never brought it up again until we went on vacation together months later, and he busted out all the I love you's.
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)?
There were so many defining moments when I said to myself, "I CANNOT let him ever get away, I CANNOT imagine my life without him." But I think I knew very early on.
3. What did you do on your first date? He came to my place and brought dinner from a gourmet grocery store downtown... plus chocolate cake! I thought it was so sweet. We ended up not eating and talked for hours, the next morning I had to be up at 4 AM for a business trip out of town, I had little to no sleep that night :)4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now!
I love Hawaii!
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2. How long did you know each other before you started dating? About 6 months? My officemate suspected he was interested in me from the beginning, but I was in a different relationship at the time. I broke up with the ex, then we started dating a few months later!
3. What did you do on your first date? We went out to dinner twice, which I said were not dates (hah) - given that I had recently broken up with the ex. I was trying to spend some time as a single girl
For our first "real" date, we took a walk through the arboretum, then went to the lego store where he told me I could pick any 3 types of legos, in any colors, and we had a little lego contest! He won for creativity, I won for realism, haha.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now!
) Hrm, a few weeks
5. Who said "I love you" first? He did
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)? I knew from the beginning that he could be the one. It took me another year or so for me to have that "eureka!" moment and realize I couldn't let him get away!
Since I feel like I've been whining nonstop lately, how about a poll to make up for it?
1. How did you and your husband meet?
We met in college in Fall of 1995...I was a junior and he was a freshman. I was already engaged to be married to my college sweetheart (who was a grad student). We were all in the same choir, voice studio and opera workshop. I graduated in 1997 and was married that winter. Joseph and I would occassionally run into each other as we had many friends and colleagues in common (I worked with his roommate, etc.) but we were basically classmates and casual acquaintences.
In 2001 I was going through my divorce and was hired to sing in an opera at the same company as Joseph and we were cast as husband and wife in the same production. I only knew him and 2 other people in the production so we hung out a lot outside of rehearsals (lunches and dinners together, etc.) and became friends. Also, part of the singing contract including housing, so I was his next-door neighbor (the company owns an apt. bldg. where they house artists). I didn't have a car (due to my divorce) and he would drive me to rehearsals and even to the grocery store, etc. We often shared meals and cooking since we were neighbors...like he'd grill chicken and I'd make salad and pasta and we'd have a "potluck" at one or the other's dining table. One day things were just "different"...we'd planned on have dinner like usual, but when I showed up the table was set with candles and linens and wine. I sat down and jokingly asked if this was a date and he asked, "do you want it to be?" That was the night we became lovers (which answers question #4 below)....September 26, 2001.
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
6 years (I was married to someone else for 4 of them)
3. What did you do on your first date?
Our first real date we went to the beach boardwalk in Santa Cruz, rode the rides, played on the beach and had a fantastic dinner.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now!
)
See above.
5. Who said "I love you" first?
I did. It was during one of our many DTR (Define The Relationship) talks... we had vacationed in Kauai the summer after we began dating (I think it was June 2002) and we were on the beach (the place we had initially thought we'd be married...it fronts Hanalei Colony Resort) and I said it.
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)?
2006...we had been living together for a few years and were content with being partners without the paperwork. But in 2006, J was on the road a lot and it made us realize that we wanted to make our family official in the eyes of the law.
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I don't have the patience to type all this out right now but I do have one thing to say....YOU LITTLE HUSSIES!!!!!!!!!!
Kidding, of course! This from the couple who had their 5 year old at their wedding!
These stories were great to read ladies, I apprecitate your candor and honesty!
BWAHAHAHA! Deb you're hilarious!! Who knew we hung out w/ a bunch of dirty birds!
H and I {cough cough} didn't do it until we were, uh, married. Yeah, right
Cerclage placed @ 21w6d due to CI (IC)
This is what I plan on telling our kids. In fact, we didn't even hold hands until we were married! That's my story and I'm sticking to it, anyway.
Cerclage placed @ 21w6d due to CI (IC)
1. How did you and your husband meet? We first met in the 7th grade. We had a history class together. He says he started noticing me in high school, but I wouldn't give him the time of day.
We had a lot of mutual friends and started dating in college.
2. How long did you know each other before you started dating? We started dating in June 2000, so 8 years
3. What did you do on your first date? He set me up for our first date! I was told we would be going out for dinner as a group. He picked me up and told me no one else could make it. During dinner, he bought me 3 pink roses from some lady selling flowers in the restaurant. We talked for a few hours afterward.
4. How long before you did the horizontal mambo? (Tell the truth now!
) Believe it or not, we waited 1 year. At 20 years old, he was my, um, "first".
5. Who said "I love you" first? He did.
6. When did you know that was the person you were going to marry (was it a gradual thing or more of a "eureka!" moment)? I had many "I think he's the one" moments. I think it was the collection of these moments that told me he was the one I was going to marry. It took about a year.