another love poll

redshoegirl

I recently read The Five Love Languages - although I hate cutesy terms like "keeping your love tank full" and it was a bit on the religious side for my taste, it was still an interesting read...not rocket science, but I could see how it could definitely help out couples that are having problems connecting emotionally. Anyway, if you haven't read it, the idea is that there are five main types of love "languages" - your primary one is the one that makes you feel the most loved and fulfilled in your relationship.

For example, I couldn't care less about receiving gifts, but I feel VERY loved and satisfied when Ben does stuff around the house for me, so "acts of service" is my primary language. Conversely, if Ben showered me with presents but did nothing service-oriented, I'd be really pissed off and not feel loved or appreciated at all. (I already knew this before reading the book, but it funny to see it confirmed in black and white!)

You can go here to take the quiz - what's your love language?

irishmilla02

I heard about this book too and thinking about reading it but I'm pretty sure I know where I stand as well.  I'm like you Lisa; "acts of service" is my primary language.  My husband's language and "physical touch".  This can cause some issues when we're communicating though... cause I will often communicate through "acts of service" but he still won't feel loved.  This book sounds good for couples who are needing to learn their loved one's primary language.  I know quite a few guys at work who complain about their wives always saying "you never spend enough time with me" but it's probably because their version of spending time is something like just being in the same room as them, rather than actually interacting with them. 

lelekay

Mine was "Words of Affirmation" followed by "Quality Time."   I do love it when he tells me how proud he is of me (like when he comes to see one of the concerts I direct).  And I love spending our weekends off together (doesn't happen by maybe once a month), even if all we do is run errands together.

 

Amy4773

I'm reading this right now - how funny.  I am Words of Affirmation and Todd is Physical Touch.  For both of us, our second highest love language was only one point behind and for each of us it was Quality Time.

mrsdarling

My top was Quality Time, with Physical Touch only one point behind.

SimpsonOhana07

My mine was also Quality Time and Physical Touch too.

sanae78

My #1 was Physical Touch - we're definitely cuddlers/huggers.  Followed closely by Quality Time - we pretty much do everything together and enjoy being together no matter what we're doing.

mrspresley

mine was physical touch followed by quality time.

i've heard of this book before and know about the concept though i haven't read the book. i definitely agree that there are different languages of love. it took me a long time growing up to understand that asian parents don't often show a lot of affection to their children but they show their love by providing for them financially.  once i understood this, it was a lot easier for me to understand my parents' actions while i was growing up