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lame confession
One of my cousins is getting married in June. We were best friends as kids (from birth to about 16) and only grew apart because her family moved interstate. We're not super close these days, but we invited my cousin and her fiance to our Los Angeles AHR when we got married and it was awesome to have her there.
I know the invitations to her wedding have already been sent out...and I didn't get one. 
Now, I KNOW it's obvious that I wouldn't be able to attend so I doubt she was trying to exclude me or anything, but I'm still kinda hurt that I didn't get an invite. Stupid, I know.
Re: lame confession
I don't think you should feel stupid...I'd be hurt too. The proper ettiquette is to invite everyone you'd like to invite regardless of whether or not you think they'll be able to make it. Henceforth why 50 guests were invited to our DW and only 21 guests were actually there.
If I were you, I'd be sure to send a bebbeh announcement to them. No sense in being rude back to her.
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Oh I'll definitely send her an announcement.
I was planning on buying her a wedding gift, but now I'm not sure I should - not that I'd be punishing her or something like that (I'd still like to give her something), but would it be weird/awkward to get a gift from someone you didn't invite?
not lame at all... i'd be upset too b/c you really should invite everyone regardless of if you think they can attend. like Lori said, that was like half of our wedding guests!
is there a chance the invite got lost in the mail? do you know (by word of mouth maybe?) that she definitely didn't send one to you guys?
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It's possible, but I think it's unlikely...I haven't asked her outright, but I'm fairly certain one wasn't sent.
I would go with maybe she just didn't send one because she knew you would not be able to make the trip. I know it still hurts to not get an invite and it's no excuse but maybe she was on a limited amount of invitations.
When we did our invites, we sent out all the must-send and probably will come invites. And the bottom of the lists were least likely to come. I know we scratched off a few names with as many envelopes as I messed up. I know I could have bought more and done the right thing and sent them but I was being cheap and just could not shell out for a pack of 50 more envelopes (odd-size) when I only needed 3.
Or.. it got lost crossing the Pacific - it's easier to blame the mail service - it could show up a month from now
not lame at all! i would feel hurt too.
i would try to give her the benefit of the doubt and hope that the reason she didn't send one is b/c she was unaware of the etiquette that she should - that most likely, she didn't send one b/c she knew you couldn't make it.
I also tend to like to get things out in the open for those i'm closest too - in my case, that means I'd seriously think through whether it would cause more harm, or whether it might be a good thing, if i were to write a letter sincerely expressing how glad i was to see her at our LA reception, how much her friendship has meant to me, even though we've grown (physically) apart, etc - and maybe mention that I was really hurt by not getting an invite. ...eh, even as i'm writing this, i probably wouldn't do it. depends on how you think she might react. would she be touched that you care enough about her to write the letter? or bridezilla and freak out about the unneccessary stress and guilt-trip you're laying on her?
...i don't know! but definitely not a lame confesssion.
I'd feel the same way