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I think my MIL could get out of control...
with this whole baby shower thing. (Sorry, this is so long)
My BFF (who lives in Ft. Lauderdale, about an hour away) offered to host one here for me. (My sister, SIL, aunts, etc. are hosting one in my hometown). Anyway, I emailed MIL yesterday to ask her if there was anyone other than DH's aunt, female cousins who she'd like me to ask. She emailed me a list of about 12-15 people. And told me that she had asked my DH for my BFF's number to plan a shower.
So she called my BFF yesterday to offer her help with the shower, b/c I told MIL that we (BFF and I) had talked about it and thought that my house would be the best place, b/c I would be inviting my co-workers and a couple of other friends, and then everyone could see the new house, and hopefully we'd have the nursery in some semblance of order for everyone to see. So MIL tells BFF that that's fine, but its going to be a long way for her friends to drive from Miami (about 1.5 hours). I didn't know this was about the convenience of her friends most of whom I have only met once or twice, I thought it was a party to welcome Baby JB? Don't get me wrong, I am thrilled that any of them would want to be at a shower for Baby JB, but we're talking about people MIL works with, not long time family friends (though some of them are). She then proceeds to tell BFF that we most definitely should not have it 4th of July weekend (well, duh!) and she has a weekend in June she will be OOT for work (no problem, I might be in PC for my family shower anyway).
MIL also told BFF she always knew she'd get to be a big part of the baby shower b/c she didn't invite anyone to my bridal showers because it was too far for them to travel by her choice, I gave her the option. And gasp, I would have traveled to Miami for one if she or her friends wanted to host one, but they didn't make any offers. I don't want to sound ungrateful or mean, but I also don't want MIL to feel like she gets to take over, step in and be my mom b/c she is closer (in distance) than my mom.
Re: I think my MIL could get out of control...
Uh-oh...its nice of her to want to so stuff for you, but she sounds a bit bossy.
You could always "demand" to have it at your place b/c you don't want/can't travel.
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Super ditto! Add that to the list of things I SWEAR I will not do to my kids' significant others!
Ditto Kristy and Jenny!
Eesh!! I don't know what I would do if my MIL was like this - I heart my MIL!!
I ditto pp and say demand it be at your place :-).
Yes, I agree with all of the PP!!!
YOU are the pregnant one... YOU are the one the shower is for...
YOU should not have to go far for YOUR shower... GL!
This. Remind her gently that you'll be great with child and cannot possibly lug all the baby shiznit home. THats how I got mine to be hosted in my living room. 'Twas awesome.
I don't have too many worries- the location will NOT change. BFF's got my back on this one.
I'm just wierded out by her wanting to invite her co-workers. Long time family friends are one thing, at least they've known DH since he was little, but people she works with? Esp. since some of them haven't met him/I've met once over a year ago? But if they want to a) trek to my house and/or b) buy the baby a gift, it's their time and money.
Ugh, I am sorry. It seems like baby showers cause more drama than wedding showers do. I hope that everything works out for you! Yay for having it at home though! I am having mine at my house too and I can't wait, I think that it will be so much easier!