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XP: Random dilemma involving college basketball
Warning: Long and not all that consequential in the big picture.
Please weigh in if you're bored. 
My sister is a senior in college about 150 miles from where I live. I will be attending her graduation in about six weeks. My mom called me a couple weeks ago and said that my aunt can't attend my sister's graduation, but she really wants to see her, so my mom and my aunt were thinking about picking a weekend in April to visit my sister, and could I join them? I was non-committal, saying "let me know when you pick a weekend because April is pretty busy."
Then on Sunday, my mom called and said that she and my aunt had picked this weekend to visit my sister, any chance I could come up? I'm running a 5K on Saturday morning, but it's a short enough drive that I wouldn't mind going up for just one night, so I said yes.
In the middle of our conversation, I realized that "my" college basketball team will be playing in the Elite Eight on Saturday, if they win on Thursday. I use quotes because I did not attend this college, but it is my hometown team and I have been a fan all my life. I am a pretty rabid basketball fan (even though I live too far away to attend games). They are the 2-seed playing an 11-seed on Thursday, so chances are they'll advance to the Elite Eight (though no guarantees with the way this tournament has been going).
I know this sounds super silly, but I know that I won't get a chance to watch the game, other than checking scores in passing, if I'm visiting my sister on Saturday night. I was planning to host a party on Saturday if my team wins on Thursday (though I haven't told anyone except DH and BIL since it's not a sure thing yet).
[ETA:
The previous statement doesn't make sense as I've written it. The Elite
Eight games are on Saturday and Sunday, and for some reason I was
assuming that my team would be playing on Sunday, if they made the Elite
Eight. So when I said yes to my mom, I was thinking that I'd leave
early Sunday afternoon and be home before the game.]
I also normally work on weekends. It's not a big deal to take off a weekend here and there, but if I'm in town them I'm usually at work for a chunk of the day on Saturday.
If I weren't going to my sister's graduation in six weeks, I would definitely visit this weekend. But I'm going to see her in May! And I want to watch basketball! DH tells me I'm being silly and just tell my mom that I can't go, but I feel bad because I originally told her that I would. To complicate matters, my sister left me a voicemail yesterday telling me that mom said I was visiting this weekend, and she really hopes this is true because she really wants to see me!
I am tempted to use the "I have so much work to do this weekend" angle, but I use it all the time.
I hope that y'all don't think I'm a total fool for being worked up over this.
Re: XP: Random dilemma involving college basketball
I understand. Are you sure you can not work watching the game into visiting your sister? What about going out to dinner at a bar/restaurant that is showing the game? Can you tell them them that you will let them know if you are coming on Friday after the Sweet 16 game is over?
If my team wins on Fri they will be playing on Sunday and there is a chance we could be traveling when that game starts.
This was suggested on the other board where I posted. I was initially resistant to this idea because my mom and sister aren't crazy basketball fans like me, but I think they would put up with it for two hours. I really like the idea of having friends over for a party at our house to watch the game, but I want to see my sister too.
As to your other question, I'm embarrassed/feel bad to tell my mom and sister that the reason I'm considering not visiting is so that I can watch a basketball game. On TV. So if I didn't go I'd probably just be kind of vague about the excuse and say I have a lot to do (which is generally true, there's always a lot to do!)
Anyway, thanks for not thinking I'm crazy. I knew the Sports board would understand my need for basketball!
I sometimes plan travel/stops around sporting events. Maybe you could find a restaurant that is not necessarily a sports bar, but would be showing the tournament.
My family would expect me to plan things around a Duke tournament game, however they enjoy watching as well, so they usually put up with my ideas.
Good luck figuring it out.
I plan my life around OSU games - especially when it comes to football and basketball. My good friends know that during the fall, they can't find me on a Saturday - and if they can, it's probably because there's an away game, which requires any activity we do around game time to involve a TV with the game on it.
Maybe you should try to find a place to watch the game while you're with your mom and sister. If they understand how much you love basketball, they'll understand that you really, REALLY want to watch the game this weekend. Maybe you can strike up a compromise?
Good luck!