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a different type of poll...
I might have a difficult life choice to make later in the year - and it could make some of my life goals more possible, while hurting others. I have to be vague at this point and I may not have a choice to make, but it inspired a poll!
1. On a scale of 1 - 5 (5 being most important, 1 not at all important), rank the following things in your life:
Career
having a baby (or babies)
Being close to family
Owning a house
Being financially comfortable (i.e. - not living pay check to pay check, a decent savings)
Living in a desirable location (either by family, near things you love, etc.)
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list?
Re: a different type of poll...
1. On a scale of 1 - 5 (5 being most important, 1 not at all important), rank the following things in your life:
Career - 4
having a baby (or babies) - 1
Being close to family - 4
Owning a house - 3
Being financially comfortable (i.e. - not living pay check to pay check, a decent savings) - 4
Living in a desirable location (either by family, near things you love, etc.) - 4
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list? Yes, I would. For instance...I like living near my family, but I would move if the right opportunity landed in my lap. OR I would love to be mommy warbucks but if that meant being in a job I hated, I wouldn't do it. I'd rather be broke and happy than rich and miserable.1.) having a baby (or babies)
2.) Owning a house
3.) Being financially comfortable (i.e. - not living pay check to pay check, a decent savings)
4.) Living in a desirable location (either by family, near things you love, etc.)
5.) Being close to family
6.) Career
Here is my order, but a lot of these things go hand in hand for me. For instance, I put career last, because it's not important to me, but it's more a means to an end. In order for us to have the baby, house, and live comfortably, I have to work. I ranked location lower, but there's no way I would buy a house somewhere that I wasn't interested in living. Being close to family is actually part of the desirable location for me.
Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list?
Not really. For instance, we had a choice to get married or buy a house because we knew that we could only afford one or the other in 2009. We chose to pay for the wedding in order to have a baby sooner and we're renting for another year. I'm not giving up the house, but we just put it off for another year for something that I felt was more important: starting our family. So for me, I wouldn't give up one of the items, but rather wait longer to achieve it.
ETA: I messed up the order. Clearly, #1 is most important and #6 in least.
I think these could be pretty interchangeable, but some of them wouldn't. Like being financially comfortable/stable will always be extremely important to me.
Also, I wasn't sure if you wanted it to be in our order from 1 to 6 or if you wanted each item ranked individually. So I did it both ways.
2-Career
5-having a baby (or babies)
3-Being close to family
1-Owning a house
5-Being financially comfortable
4-Living in a desirable location
And the other way:
6: Financially comfortable, 5: Babies, 4/3: living in desirable location/close to family, 2: Career. 1: Owning a house
1. On a scale of 1 - 5 (5 being most important, 1 not at all important), rank the following things in your life:
Career - 5
having a baby (or babies) - 2
Being close to family - 3
Owning a house - 1 (I wasn't sure how to answer this one since we already own a house)
Being financially comfortable - 4
Living in a desirable location - 4
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list?
It's important for me to live close to my family, but DH and I do not want to love in CA forever, which means we won't be living close to my family anymore. That will be hard for me, but it will be better for us in the long run (quality of life, cost of living, etc). I used to think kids were an absolute definite, but now I'm not so sure. My career is most important at this time in my life because it's... so important at this time in my life, lol. Also, maybe if we were for financially comfortable I would feel differently about kids, but for now it's just not the responsible thing to do for us.
Thanks for answering those who have (or who will!). I'm really confused right now about my priorities, and how much I'm willing to give up in order to achieve certain things.
If you can, I think what may work for you is if you can narrow down what is most important to you. Imagine your life in 20 years, and think of what you want it to look like & where you want to be. What do you want your retirement years to be like? What would you like to spend that time doing with your lives?
1. On a scale of 1 - 5 (5 being most important, 1 not at all important), rank the following things in your life:
Career 4
having a baby (or babies) 5
Being close to family 3
Owning a house 1
Being financially comfortable (i.e. - not living pay check to pay check, a decent savings) 5
Living in a desirable location (either by family, near things you love, etc.) 3
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list?
Yes and no. I would give up things on the list. While owning our own house would be amazing, as long as we're living in an area we like and we like the place, I don't really care if we own it or rent it or whatever. And as much as a career is very important to me, that might change when kids are in the mix. If we could afford it, I would be a SAHM at least for a few years. Adversly, if something happened and we couldn't have kids, then my career would obviously take that place. I think I've been where you are (and still kind of am). I had to think of it this way: in 50 years will I be upset that I choose blank over blank? KWIM?
1. On a scale of 1 - 5 (5 being most important, 1 not at all important), rank the following things in your life:
Career- 1 I'm a SAHM so this is very low on my list.
having a baby (or babies) 5
Being close to family 4
Owning a house 1
Being financially comfortable (i.e. - not living pay check to pay check, a decent savings) 3
Living in a desirable location (either by family, near things you love, etc.) 4
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list?
Owning a house used to be very important to me but now we own one and are so far away from anyone that I would rather rent and live close to my family and in a location that I didn't hate. So yes, I would give up things to have something that was more important to me or my DH. (example: I moved across the country from my family for DH's job)
I'll answer what I would say for myself right now...
Career- 5
having a baby (or babies) 4
Being close to family 2
Owning a house 1 (we already own a house)
Being financially comfortable (i.e. - not living pay check to pay check, a decent savings) 3
Living in a desirable location (either by family, near things you love, etc.) 1
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list?
Mine kinda go hand in hand....right now I'm focusing on my career to kinda set us up so that we are ready to have a baby next year. I work full time as a graphic designer, but also do photography on the side. I'm trying to set up my photography business so that while I am out of work to have a baby, I'll still have some sort of income, but it will be flexible & possibly it will become my full time job someday.
and like Tammy said.....I like living near my family, but I would move if the right opportunity landed in my lap. I wouldn't stay in a job I hated just to make lots of $$ either.
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Career- 4
having a baby (or babies)- 1
Being close to family- 4
Owning a house- 1 (already own)
Being financially co-mfortable (i.e. - not living pay check to pay check, a decent savings)- 5
Living in a desirable location (either by family, near things you love, etc.)- 5
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list?
Depending on the situation, probably yes
Career 2
having a baby (or babies) 4
Being close to family 3
Owning a house 4
Being financially comfortable (i.e. - not living pay check to pay check, a decent savings) 5 (for me it must come before starting a family)
Living in a desirable location (either by family, near things you love, etc.) 3
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list? possibly
ETA: If it were a temporary situation I would probably make the sacrifice. However if it were giving up something permanently probably not. Having children is very important to me in the future, but I would never willingly jeapordize us financially (ie - no income, huge debt, etc) to do so.
1. On a scale of 1 - 5 (5 being most important, 1 not at all important), rank the following things in your life:
Career - 3, to me my education and field of practice both rank much higher as an education is something one can parlay into real world life and various career paths and passions (so that would be a 5) misleading ? from my stand point
having a baby (or babies) - 0- I'm done
Being close to family - my h and children? a 5, rest of family? 3
Owning a house - 5 we've owned before (and do currently)and for us it makes sense- or, would this be a 1 since we own?
Being financially comfortable- 5- we have 3 kids, goals, saving and I like to shop- enough said!
Living in a desirable location (either by family, near things you love, etc.) - 4- i love where we live here, but obviously of a choice anywhere in the world I'd have other destinations in mind
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list? of course- in life, everything is negotiable to some extent
I've been thinking how to answer this post for a few hours now so I cannot really answer with the 1 - 5 ratings b/c in our situation a lot of things that are listed are also dependent upon the other listed items. Like right now we are waiting on for Jordan to finish school for his career before we can become financially comfortable, which will lead to owning a house, which will then lead to a baby.
It is important to us to live close to family, but if an amazing oppurtunity presented itself where we had to move to another part of the country we would most likely take it.
Here are mine, in order from 1-5...because I can't follow directions
1. Being financially comfortable.
2. Career
3. Owning a house (we already have one...)
4. Being close to family
5. Having a baby
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list? Ehhh...not really. I mean, if I HAD to...it depends on the circumstance.
1. On a scale of 1 - 5 (5 being most important, 1 not at all important), rank the following things in your life:
Career -2
having a baby (or babies) -5
Being close to family -3
Owning a house -4
Being financially comfortable (i.e. - not living pay check to pay check, a decent savings) -4
Living in a desirable location (either by family, near things you love, etc.) -3
2. Would you give up one of these things that you ranked as important for another item on your list?
Only if it was for something else that I ranked as important. I would pretty much give up any of these to have a baby. I've always been family oriented.
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