I need to vent

~*Belle*~

I know I haven't been around much but I'm just more than a little pissed off and I need somewhere to vent where I know MH won't see it.

We went out tonight to see his dads band. Huge group of people, everyone drinking, talking, dancing having a good time. Except for him. He sat there looking absolutely miserable like he would have rather been anywhere else. At 10:30 he asked me when I wanted to go home. We had been there an hour. Now he's mad at me because I told him I was upset.

It is so frustrating because we NEVER go out. Ever. We sit at home weekend after weekend watching tv. It's boring as hell. And he spouts all this BS about how we'll be living in NO soon and we can go see live bands and enjoy the music/entertainment scene. We won't though, it won't be any different. 

I mean I'm sorry I'm young and I want to have fun and be social. And it's not like I want to go out every single night, or even every weekend. One weekend a month? I mean is that too much to ask? But he gets tired. And needs to be in bed by 11. I'm sorry bands don't start playing at 5 o'clock.

And it's not just this, this is just kind of the straw that broke the camels back. I feel like we have nothing in common when it comes to things we like to do. I'm an active person, I like to be out doing stuff, dancing, seeing a band, bowling, mini golf, walks in the park, going walking around a book store I mean I'll do just about anything. I just like to have fun. He likes to watch tv and go online on his computer. And I'm sorry but that gets old. 

I just don't know what to do. I don't want to spend the rest of my life sitting in front of the tv. 

 

christenm

ugh, he sucks!  I have a friend who's hubby doesn't like to go out, EVER.  EVER!!!!  And she's a very social person so she just goes without him!  With friends.  It sucks though, I know. 

I'm sorry, I have no good advice, but I'm here to vent to because I hear vents about it all the time!

Aligator28

I completely understand, I can't stand being at home all.the.time. I'm like you I like just going to walk around a bookstore, or wherever, just getting out and getting fresh air. Is there anywhere he likes to go, Lowes, Home Depot, whatever? You can go walk around with him where he wants to go and then you guys go where you want to go. IDK if that would work, if the only place he wants to go is in front of the computer/tv. 

mzovoce

Have you tried to make plans in advance and maybe have a quiet day leading up to the event of the night. I'm a mix of you and your H, I go to sleep so early compared to everyone else, and I always have. If I know I want to go out I try and take a little nap even if I don't sleep. I find that's how I'm able to compensate, because I am not able to sleep late.

Jennifer18131

i2i, Belle. i2freakini. We need wine ASAP.

Rdh2MrsOMFS

My ex was the exact same way.  Living with him was miserable... When I left him, that was the best decision I've ever made in my entire life.  I am the happiest that I've ever been... Of course,  I'm not telling you to leave him, but I know where you're coming from and it's not fun =(

Cissy_Strut

Is he just not comfortable in social situations? Are there a few people who he likes to do things with every now and then? Maybe if you can find his comfort zone, and start there, you'll be able to get him out of the house more often.

I'm LOL at your comments that bands don't start playing at 5.