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S/O Would you leave?
What if you found out your Husband was cheating? Would you leave? Forgive him and try to make it work? What if you had kids?
Re: S/O Would you leave?
Can't wait to meet my baby boy!
I can't give you a 100% def. answer because I don't really know unless I was put in the situation and I hope to God, that I never am.
I don't think I could EVER trust him again if he cheated on me. Like this lady said...she's always wondering where he is, who he's with, if he's cheating, etc. I would be the same way. It would tear us apart....and I don't know if I'd be able to repair it....
I'd be out the door in 2 seconds, stuff packed, kid in arms. That's it. Done. Finished.
Edit; Didn't get a long period of time to explain this. My mom cheated on my dad. i've been cheated on before. I have no tolerance for it, at all. As for the kids thing, my parents stayed together probably 10 years longer than they should have, and it was hell. My mom didn't cheat till the last year, and my dad had enough and left. Moved out on my prom night. Not a fun experience. I don't want my son to be put through that. And I want my son to grow up with the ability to trust. My SO was raised in a home with no trust (his dad cheated on his mom once), and now he has huge trust issues. And I do too because I've seen what can happen to your heart if you put all your trust in someone.
I wish cheating on no one.
Ha, just realized you were referring to the post below... I hate this topic!!! That woman's blog is spine tingling, the entire situation scares me. The picture she paints lets you feel a fraction of what its actually like, and my eyes were watering just from that...
Can't wait to meet my baby boy!
Umm, No. It's a Spin Off of the other post but you got that now.
But yeah, DH and I have talked about it and it's a deal breaker for both of us. We would never cheat. If he or I want to be with someone else, why cheat? Just be honest and more on. But if he doesn't, sorry your stuff if packed and your out the door, even if we had kids. I know they complicate things but sorry, you're out. And it's the same if I did the cheating. But like someone else said, it does depend and this answer could change. I hope this does happen to any of us here.
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I was in a relationship that was not only verbally and emotionally abusive for almost a year and half. But he cheated on my throughout the entire relationship. the next part is a really long story but some things happened that made me realize that i deserved better then that and i left and that is when i moved to Arizona almost 4 years ago.
I can honestly say that with kids or without kids if Cj were to ever cheat on me that i would leave. Just because we have kids does not mean i need to stay and put up with that behavior. The way i see it is if he were to disrespect me in that way that i would lose all respect for him. I would not put my kids through a life where i or their father were unhappy together. I have always believed to lead by example. and if we could be great parents and not be together then so be it. That would be the path that CJ would have choosen for us as a family.
My heart truly breaks for those who have or are experiencing this pain. It is hard to get over and to trust anyone agian. someone said that they would always wonder where their man was, or who he was with and let me tell you those are things that will never change. It took me a long time to heal from that pain and i would say it was only when i met CJ and we starting getting really serious, that my heart felt whole again and that i could trust again but it but it was a long road to get to that point.
Ditto this. My Mom cheated on my Dad, my Step-Dad cheated on my Mom, so my Mom cheated on my Step-Dad, etc. My mom would take me to a bar with her while she danced and made out with other guys, and made me swear not to tell my Step-Dad. I know exactly what cheating does to person and a family.
That being said, I honestly can't say 100% that I would leave right away. It would take a lot of thinking and discussions to come to a absolute conclusion.
I just realized S/O was "Spin Off." I'm still new to this, and I only know S/O as "Significant Other".
Can't wait to meet my baby boy!
Okay... I will probably get flamed for this, but here it goes.
I've been the cheater (and cheated on). I can't give a 100% answer to this either. Here's why- there are SO many reasons why people cheat. It's absolutely horrible and there are no excuses as to why people cheat. However, I do believe there are reasons why to them, it seems feasible.
This is why I can't give a 100% statement on this. It would really depend on the circumstances, and what caused my DH to feel the need to cheat. Was it an emotional relationship, or just mattress mambo (to me, it's different- and I also believe you can "cheat" without having mattress mambo).
I believe it would take a lot of discussions, counseling, and prayer for us to figure out what we needed to do to be happy and lead fullfilling enriched lives if this were to happen.
Do you listen to Johnjay and Rich? I know totally off the subject but that is the only place I hear that at.
Also, I dont know about the emotional cheating, I mean why not just come and talk to me. Why go somewhere else?
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LOOOOOOOVE Johnjay & Rich!
Can't wait to meet my baby boy!
I would leave, no questions asked... That's it, im done!!
And I would expect him to do the same if I cheated on him. You never would fully repair the broken trust after that... at least I neve would!
I also came from a family with cheating and I absolutely can't condone it.
I would be done. I know my personality, and it would EAT at me. No matter what. I couldn't handle it.
I appreciate your openness, I too have been the cheater and the one cheated on. There are so many levels to cheating so I don't think I can say 100% either way if I would stay or go. I agree that to stay it would take lots of counseling and it would be a tough road but I have seen people make it work.
THIS
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I listen on occasion- I dislike how much they replay.
If you really want to know my answer on your other question- in terms of why not just talk to your partner- Message me, and I'll share my thoughts, it's a little to personal to just word vomit on the board
This. I would like to be able to forgive, but I'm not sure I ever could.
Second date update tomorrow!!!!
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Listening to it now!
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The Life of the E Family
Being pregnant now means I'd definitely leave. No ifs, ands or buts. I want my son to see relationships that are built on trust, love, respect, and support. If I cheated on him, or if he cheated on me...that breaks all of those.
I think if it had been before we were having a kid, I would have worked it out. I've been cheated on in past relationships and worked it out. It wasn't easy, and it was a hard road. That said, the past cheating wasn't what led to the demise of that relationship.