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XP: Baby Shower Hosting ?- Sticky Situation
I figured since a lot of you ladies have hosted baby showers, you might have some good opinions.
One of my neighbors is pregnant and is due in August. I've known her for over a year and we are becoming closer and closer friends so I'd really like to throw a baby shower for her. The problem is that our neighborhood is very fertile (we have over 5%- over 10 households- expecting). I am friends, but not as good friends, with most of the other expecting moms, as is my friend. I don't want it to become an obligation for the neighborhood to have a baby shower for every mom, but I doubt she's going to have a local shower since her family is all over 5 hours away. I don't know any of her non-neighborhood friends, but I was hoping her DH could help pull a list together. However, I'd still run into the problem of figuring out which neighbors to invite without the other pregnant neighbors feeling left out or like they should have/had a shower.
Should I just forget the idea about hosting a shower?
Should I try to throw a mini-shower? This girl and another pregnant girl are in my supper club (through the neighborhood). I was thinking we could surprise them with diaper cakes and maybe a few gifts just from me/DH and the other lady in our supper club.
Should I throw a shower and just not worry about all of the other pregnant neighbors? And if I go with this option, how do I handle inviting other neighbors (who could be pregnant)?
Or should I try to throw a joint shower for the pregnant ladies that our group of friends is closest to? Again, I worry that other pregnant ladies might feel excluded.
Is there another solution?
Re: XP: Baby Shower Hosting ?- Sticky Situation
Does it have to be a surprise? I would just tell her that you'd like to throw her a local shower if no one else has offered.
I think inviting other people from outside the neighborhood is the best way to not make the other pg ladies feel like they've been slighted. And have the shower at a restaurant or park, not in a neighborhood home. That way it's obviously not a neighborhood shower.
i agree with this!
A) Ask her for a list of who she would like to invite and what days are best for her. Do not make it a surprise.
C) if a hormonal pregnant lady is offended because no one in the neighborhood throws them a shower after this, tell them to go fvck themselves, they are not entitled to anything and maybe they should be a better person and have more friends.
the end. FWIW its admirable you dont' want to offend anyone but you are putting WAY too much thought into a simple shower experience and you will stress yourself and MomtoBe out if you continue thinking of every angle. Have fun with it and enjoy it.
Oh Buckin, you make me smile! And I always over think everything, so thanks for helping try to keep this simple!