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Connor's crying :(
I want to go get him. I know its bad that I just want to pick him up. He has been crying on and off for 15 mins and I set the timer for another 5 minutes. DH knows that he is just throwing a temper tantrum and thats great but he just yelled at me to get out of the room.. **yelled** no need. Not right now.....he needs to try to understand how hard this is......but I get no response when i try to tell him that. My heart is breaking right now 
Re: Connor's crying :(
Be strong, mama. ?I know how hard it is. ?(((big hugs)))
Ben was CIO tonight too and I just felt like something was up. ?So, after round 2 of 10 minutes, I went in and got him and went I turned on the light, there was spit up everywhere. ?I picked him up and he spit up all over me. ?He never spits up, so now I don't know what's up with him...
Anyway, I'm sorry your DH isn't getting it. ?I've been there too! ?I'm always the one in tears and he's always calling me a softy. ?I mean, I know I am, but who wants to hear their baby cry??
You can call me if you need some distraction. ?All 3 of us are awake (unfortunately...). ?: )?
Thanks babe. I really appreciate it. I caved after the 10 mins...25 mins total. He was fussing for 10 then crying on and off. Dh went up and he cried harder, probably b/c he knew someone was in the room. He staye for 10mins on and off crying. SO he came down. So i went up and tried to put my hand on his belly but that didnt work so i did it, yup....i picked him up and rocked him. He was sniffling and breathing tose couple deep breaths then after 5 mins he went out.
I dont know if i did well or not!?!? Be honest.
I have no advice, but I can definitely see where it would be very hard to let your baby CIO.
It sounds like you did well! You got your baby to sleep!
Beth...I know it is very hard. I had let Evan CIO at night when he was around 5 months or so....totally worth it to get him used to the fact that he was ok and no one is going to come to the rescue all the time.
However...it took me until he was 11 months or so to get him to CIO for naps. I was laying down with him to fall asleep for every nap because he would scream if I put him in the crib and walked away. I decided enough was enough and let him CIO and it only took about 3 days of him CIO for upwards of an hour at a time for both naps during the day and he then realized that he was crying for no reason and now can be put down for naps and i can walk away.
Once you get thru the night time CIO...you will be such a happy camper I swear. Letting him CIO is not going to hurt him at all. I know it sounds like it is since he is screams so bad and then has that bad breathing from it but he will eventually learn to self soothe. I know how hard it is, believe me! Just do it for more and more time as days go on (set the timer for longer each time) and I promise it will get easier!! I knwo it is easier said than done but in the long run you are not letting him control you....you are making it better for everyone!
This stuff is tough on everybody, Beth.... I'm sorry that your DH was short with you. I'm that way with my DH at times when I feel like I know the right thing to do and he is "interfereing" with my doing what I need to (bad choice of words, probably, but hopefully you get what I mean). Hopefully, the two of you can (as DH and I have to when stuff like this happens) sit down and discuss what was said and how he could have handled the situation better for the next time.
It's hard enough to fight off your "mommy instinct" to go flying in there when your son is crying, you don't need to be getting flack from your DH too.
Thanks for the comments ladies. I really dont like to call it CIO since, correct me if I am wrong, that entails letting the baby cry for more than an hour. And there is NO WAY IN HELL i am letting my baby do that. I barely did 5 mins!! lol It was total of 45 mins fussing then quite then fussing the crying the loud cry that last maybe 5-10 mins.....it always seems so much longer though.
DH did apologize for not being there for me in a moment of weakness but I told him baby steps were needed. I am not going to go from holding him everytime he makes a peep to paying no attention to his cries. Plus, as some of you have said, a mommy knows her babies cries. Which is why i went up there to rock him to sleep.
We are hopefully all going to do better tonight. He did get a 3 hour nap today and 2 one hour naps. Sleep begets sleeps right!!?? lol