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I just keep crying
I'm so sad that I have to leave my job. I like the work we do and what we stand for, but the environment became so ugly. I'm really freaked out that I won't have another job. But I don't even know what type of job I want to look for. I think that after 6 years I really need a break from the non-profit sector. It's emotionally draining always begging for sponsors and donors. But is it really smart to change career paths when my wife doesn't really have a full time career yet? I feel awful that I can't support her and that she is having to take on extra work. I just want her to concentrate on school and be able to finish up by June. She won't be able to do that as long as my life is in limbo. Why did I quit? Seriously...how long is it going to take me to find a job that at the very least pays me what I made? I'm guessing 2-3 months which seems to be average around her. omg.
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Re: I just keep crying
first of all, i'm sending huge hugs your way. this is such a tough, scary time and its okay to cry.
but, you are a smart sucessful woman who made a decision she needed to make. you havent been happy in that job for a while and this is your opportunity to find out where you really belong. your wife is backing you through this decision and you two will make it to the other side just fine. please let me know if i can do anything specific to help.
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Yes, I agree with everyone else. This is a crappy time, but you did what you had to do! Take it from me- the partner of a woman who's in a terribly horrible job so she can support us financially while I'm in school. It's not worth it! It's making us BOTH miserable! I can't get her to quit! You've done the brave thing, J! Now I seem to have lost your email. You know, the one that had your actual address in it. *sigh* That was a long time ago. Can I have it again please? I can't find your email address anywhere
It will work out. It may take time, but it will happen. And at least in the mean time you still have the evening job. It's always a scary thing to leave your job. Just apply to anything that appeals to you if you're not sure where to go. Through your search and the process of interviewing, you'll start to get a better idea of what you want and don't. Are there many staffing firms/recruiters in your area? I ask because that's basically the only way to get a job in Boston. Recruiters can be great because they do the legwork and salary negotiations for you. May be something to look into - they often make things move much faster.
Come here and vent anytime! I'm thinking of you :-)
sahm ~ toddler breastfeeder ~ cloth diaperer ~ baby wearer
((hugs)) Try to breathe.. it will all be okay.
I totally hear you about taking a break from non-profits. They tax you like no other job can. Even though I loved non-profit work, I went pretty much to the opposite end of the spectrum and got a government job. I have to say, it is wonderful to work at a job where I don't have to hunt down dollars constantly. I still feel like I am "helping" people, just now it's from the other side of the table. I would really encourage you to go with your gut and consider stepping out of non-profits for a bit if you need to. Everyone needs to stop and regroup at times, and you can always go back to non-profit work when you want to.
Don't worry about K. She will be okay, too. Talk to her about your concerns, of course, but if she says she's okay with the current situation, believe her. And if not, you can work something out together. I know if I were in her shoes your happiness would be paramount, even if it meant I had a little more difficulty finishing school. I would imagine that she is proud of you for extricating yourself from a difficult and unhealthy work environment.
You made the right choice. Just keep breathing...
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
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Two P.S.s...
1) I agree with Brit, headhunters/recruiters can often get it done more quickly than regular pavement-pounding.
2) Work your contacts! You never know who may have heard of a job opening...
IUI #3 gave us the best 2nd anniv. gift ever: 2 babies! (born 03/09/10)
Peanut and Little Man are getting so big! 2 years old already!
finally blogging again at This Will Be: An Adventure
Just remember how miserable your job was making you. Things will work out for the best. You will find a job you will love and that will make you happier and therefore a better partner. Everything happens as it should. Have faith.
~Kennedy
Ditto