Somewhat new to Indiana

faupanda

Hi, I moved to the Columbus area (about 40 mins south of Indy) about two years ago, and I have had a very hard time making friends my age in the area who are married.  We have been married for 6 months today (yay!), and I have been falling into a slump and I'm getting super bummed that I don't have any girlfriends to hang out with, go shopping, etc. I have a few single friends but I am noticing more and more that we are drifting apart, especially since the wedding.

I'm really trying very hard to keep positive, but I am becoming more and more homesick.  I came from a big city and I still haven't adjusted to small town life.

MissN06

Finding people who are in a similar situation can be difficult.  Are there any people you work with? From church? Hobbies that you do?

faupanda

There are a few people I work with, but they have very busy lives and sometimes its hard to go out with them.  We do not go to church or temple since we have different religions and are not very religious to begin with.  I haven't developed any new hobbies since I've lived here - guess I'm boring? I love to go to the mall/stores and go shopping. I love makeup.

MissN06

faupanda:

There are a few people I work with, but they have very busy lives and sometimes its hard to go out with them.  We do not go to church or temple since we have different religions and are not very religious to begin with.  I haven't developed any new hobbies since I've lived here - guess I'm boring? I love to go to the mall/stores and go shopping. I love makeup.

I also love shopping and going to the mall to try on clothes and window shop.  I am in a similar situation since I am in the divorce process and all of my friends are married.  I still hang out with them but eventually I will most likely want to find some single people to hang out with too.

Mrs.Palmison

Small town life in Indiana can be a hard place to make friends!

I always suggest volunteering as a way to meet people with similar interests. Maybe there is a womens shelter that could use help organizing clothes donations?! I too am a girly girl who loves clothes and shopping, and have found volunteering with women getting on their feet VERY fulfulling! 

Beyond churches, there are also local womens sororities that are both social and philanthropic groups. Check out both Psi Iota Xi and Tri Kappa. I believe there is a Psi Iota chapter in Columbus. 

Hope you find some fun ways to get more involved in your area! 

Chrissy3321

I second volunteering!  It's a great way to stay active and meet people.

Nique1370

I wish I had some advice.  I only wanted to say, I feel your pain.  I have lived here 2 years now, and I am in your situation too.  It is hard for me because I am not a joiner so to speak.  I hope you are able to meet people!

faupanda

Thank you all for your wonderful comments I have been looking at volunteering with a local animal shelter.  I never thought of volunteering with a woman's group - what a great idea!  I will definitely look into it.

munkii

There's a woman on my anniversary board who recommended joining Sweet Adelines International.  They're an international barbershop singing organization for women of various ages and backgrounds.  Anyway, she said that since she moves a lot, she enjoys being a member of that organization because you can find one almost everywhere and all the women are very supportive of each other in many ways.  So, if you like to sing, it may be a good way to meet people.  The two in Indy would be closest to you, but the commute might be worth it.

PUBoilerBride

I also recommend volunteering. While I haven't met many in my organization around my age, I've met wonderful people with similar passions

I would also recommend looking at meetup.com to see if there are any groups in your area focused on some of your interests - for example in the Indy area, I participate in the vegetarian meet up, the graphic design meet up and the doxie meet up I'm not regular because of my crazy schedule, but it helps get me out there to find people with similar interests.

faupanda

I have searched on meetup.com and haven't found anything but I will give it another go - I did not see a group for doxies.  I will have to see if they have a group for rottis or animal rescues Thanks for the idea.  I am planning on starting to volunteer at the local animal shelter Should make me feel more involved and it will definitely get me in the community.  Thanks for all your suggestions.