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OMG. Update on Star
She posted this on the knot and I am in tears thinking of what she is going through. Everyone please pray for her.
I'm sorry for all the sadness on this board over the last few days but it has been a rough very days and the coming months will be even harder.
My advice to you all is to please have those difficult un-fun conversations ASAP. Get things written down. Get life insurance. I'm so glad that I'm not fighting R's family on things because this could be a horrible situation otherwise.
Here is part of the email I've been updating. I appreciate everyone's thoughts and prayers. I will def need them.
We will be taking Roger off life support tomorrow. His brain is so swollen that it has filled his skull. The left side has pushed over to the right side of his brain. He will never talk again, understand again, and possibly never wake. Most of his brain has died from strokes. He will have weakness on his right side. He is blind. He was also w/o oxygen at the car for a while which causes damage that they can't see.
Also, from his elbow injury he would never be able to push, pull, or carry anything too heavy. He would not be able to do anything but walk on his left hip/leg (barring the above injuries).
If I had decided to keep him this way, he would have lived in a nursing facility for the rest of his life wasting away.
I will be donating his organs as much as possible.
This was not an easy decision for me but it is what he would have wanted. He is my superman. Superman does not live this way.
If you could please let the others know I'd appreciate it. I do not want flowers but I think some of my friends are trying to set up a fund of some sort.
Please continue to pray for me.
Love, Star
Re: OMG. Update on Star
Wow...I really have no words just tears. I was hoping & praying everything would be ok. I can't believe the life of someone so young! star is very strong & brave and I am awed at her courage & strength!
I will continue to keep them in our prayers!
I cannot begin to understand the pain.
I am in shock of the news. Please know your entire family is in my thoughts Star.
His family will be in my prayers
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That is beyond horrible. I'm so sad for her I cannot stop tearing up. I can't even imagine going through that.
One minute she's happy chatting with us on the nest and the next she's dealing with taking her husband off life support?
And for her to be strong enough to share that with us? She really should be proud of herself for having that much strength. I don't think I would. My heart truly goes out to her.
Sending thoughts and prayers their way. I cannot even begin to imagine what they are going through.
....this is just a nightmare! I am sooooo sad for what this family is going through. Im at a loss for words. I have not stop thinking about them all week and this is just devastating. I know how fast life can change and I know first hand how quickly you can loose some one.
Things will eventually get back to "normal" but getting there is just...such a rollercoaster. I'm so sorry Star. If you read this and need someone to talk to just let me know!
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Star,
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.
(((HUGS)))
Thank you everyone for all your prayers and thoughts. At this moment it is hard to even imagine my life in the coming months and years. It is the most painful thing I've ever experienced. It doesn't seem real. It doesn't seem fair. I keep replaying the accident over and over in my head. I keep seeing that car coming and not being able to do anything. I'm not sure if Roger even saw it. It just happened so fast.
We donated as many organs as we could as he was very healthy. He didn't smoke or even drink and spent hours in the gym. Roger always joked he was going to live to be 200 and now he will. He will be able to help at least 3 people if not more. It was very hard to watch him go. But he went pretty quickly.
He was an amazing husband. Our 6 month anniversary was this past Saturday and I was just thinking Thursday night & Friday morning how great married life was for me. I don't even know how to start over. I'm wearing his wedding band on my thumb.
Star just remember that God will always be there for you ... especially in these tough times. Some people go through life without ever meeting that someone and you are blessed that you got to experience that... even if was taken away too soon.
I hope one day you can look back on the time you spent together and smile instead of cry.
Please know we are all thinking of you