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Flamefree Friday Confessions
I'll begin:
One of my CWs is engaged to be married (three weeks from today). She's said a few times she's trying to be a very reasonable, understanding bride. But OMG... she's crazy. She's had a few bridezilla moments she relayed to me (but thought she was perfectly in the right and was being reasonable.. of course the other person/people were completely out of line! It's her wedding, after all! 
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I expected more out of her. She's 40 years old. I recognize people around me likely thought I was as obsessed and crazy, but now it's really just annoying to see someone else act as insane as she is being.
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Semi-related: CW's wedding reception in GB is May 22nd. I also have an event request on Facebook for a fundraiser/benefit for same day for a girl I went to school with that was tragically killed in a car accident. I want to do neither, and am not sure what to do, which one to go to, or how to get out of both.
Why do I not want to go, you ponder?
--To the reception: I have no idea if we'll know anyone there (depends on who at work got invited.) Any of the people I will know, I don't really get along with. We're two completely different groups of people and the only reason I think I got an invitation is because we both are huge Brewers' fans and once offered them extra tickets we had. I expect it be a huge, drunken, semi-redneck reception... not really my idea of a good time.
--To the fundraiser: A number of things. It's in my hometown at a bar. Yippee.. Hickville, USA, here I come. We went last year and had a decent time, but really only talked to my BFF at the time (whom I'd been BFFs with for 20+ years.) I got a little tipsy, which can loosen up anything, but generally, driving into that town makes me super anxious and tense. I hate it there. Our friendship has suffered a lot since she announced she was pregnant in January. (I try to show interest and reach out to her, asking how she is, how the pregnancy is going, offering to help, trying to get together, etc., but she's obviously very close to another friend now. Both are expecting girls withing ~2 months. Fine.. I get it. I'm on the outside.)
So that friend is expecting... she's not going to drink (thank god.) In fact,... I can count at least 4 people that are going to be there that are pregnant. So in addition to not really getting along/having anything in common with 95% of the people there, the 5% I'm friendly with are all expecting. Meaning it'll be baby talk. And nothing but.
Also, since injuring my back, I've put on a little weight. Yes, I'm insecure about it and therefore don't really want to deal with facing people I don't care for, who make me insecure to begin with, while being a little chunkier than I am comfortable with.
Wow that was long.
Re: Flamefree Friday Confessions
exactly what I was going to say
I agree with Mandy, life is too short to do things you don't want to do, especially when you can get out of them
I had the biggest craving for a snowball, yea those pink hostess things. I looked a bunch of places and couldn't find one. So I went out o my way this morning to go to this little convienent store to get one. I guess there is some big lottery tonight so the line was long and it was all people getting lottery tickets and I am this big pregnant oinker like umm just the snowballs please. I gave one to my cowerker though so I wasn't such a piggy.
This.
My confession - I'm feeling a little self conscious about the stuff I have going on right now (and Mel, it wasn't just your post in lilbit's post below). We're buying this house that is obviously more expensive than our last (come on...we're coming from a 1200 sq ft condo...ANYTHING will be more expensive). We have a pretty big trip planned in a couple of weeks and two others in October. We've spent, but we're saving too. I feel like I'm getting a lot of judgment on what I've got going on.
Our friends building two houses down from us are the masters of this...yes, we do a big trip every year and I feel very fourtunate to be able to do this...but we're not staying in 5 star resorts and rolling around in limos. We're pretty cheap travelers...give me a beach and a fruity drink and I'm good for a few days. But every time we do something, these friends say something like "You guys really need to save. WE'RE saving for a house - a real house, not a condo." So it was kinda funny that we're buying a "real" house too now...but they (actually it's just the H in that couple...although I'm sure the W says things behind our backs) always say snarky things. Mike told him that he bought me tickets to see Jimmy Buffett in Vegas - he just says "Good luck getting there," and then asks how much we're spending on Chicago.
We can laugh it off when we're with them but it bugs me. I have the good faith estimate on our closing costs + down payment and I've paid over half of that already. And even at that, I have the total amount of that estimate sitting in the bank just in case something goes wrong and they need more money. I wouldn't tell the friends that, but I'm like WTF, stop judging me.
And don't even get me started on the "competition" between our houses. It's to the point that we didn't tell them what upgrades we picked b/c we'd have heard all about it. And in fact, as they're slowly finding out, I'm hearing about how much $$ I'm wasting.
.: Diary of a Recovering Runner :.
Exactly! I freaked out when Mike told me that he asked how much we were spending on Chciago! He's never been that bold about it and has no clue how much we spent/are spending on other vacations. All Mike told him in that case was "I'm not sure, Val's booking everything."
The house stuff is different b/c the floorplans all have the base price on them, so we each know what the other spent initially before upgrades.
.: Diary of a Recovering Runner :.
It's your money Val and you don't have to justify anything you do to anyone! I hate that your friend is making you feel like you have too.
That makes me mad for you that you are getting judged for your decisions. I seriously doubt you will look back and regret any of your trips. It's not like you are living with your parents and have no money and are taking these trips. You are being responsible and having some fun, the best of both worlds!
I hate to pull this card but it sounds like she may be jealous.
I don't know what the deal is. I'm happy that we're able to do stuff and I know we won't regret it. I just hate the feeling of "Ugh, what is P going to say when he finds out about this? Better get a 'change of subject' topic ready ahead of time." I could understand if I was like "Oh, we're spending $23,415 on this trip and we're so broke we can't afford groceries," but it's not like that at all.
Mike gets really worked up over it. I try to explain to him that we just have different priorities...we like to travel and would rather have a smaller house that we don't have to do anything to later...they like to go out to bars/expensive restaurants every weekend and have the biggest house they can get. That's what's important to them and who are we to tell them they should stop going out so they can go to Mexico with us?
.: Diary of a Recovering Runner :.
I'd like to second everything Jo said in response to Val's confession. I'd seriously be speechless and maybe be able to sputter "Umm... I didn't realize our financial status was your concern."
I have a very potentially flameful confession: It's May tomorrow. I fully expect at least one person who no longer posts regularly (no one specific in mind) to come back to wish happy anniversary to their date twins. This type of out-of-the-blue, one-time post pisses me off, but all the more because they claim to think about us, miss us, or promise to try and come back more often.
Not that I won't welcome back anyone who returns. I'm sure that's what people think based on the confession, but it couldn't be farther from the truth. It's more: Don't say things you don't really mean just to be polite. You have no intention of coming back until next May, or when you get pregnant, or after you've had a baby, etc... you're doing it to be an AW. AW you're pregnant, have a baby, whatever... but don't feed me blatant crap like "I miss you guys so much! I think about you every day..."
Do you now? Really?
Thats exactly it, just because your priorities are different doesn't mean you are wrong and you should never have to justify anything. Some people like to go out to eat and to bars, some don't, As long as you and Mike are happy that is all that matters.
I agree it would be one thing if you were taking all these trips and complaining about how broke you are all the time, then they maybe have a right to comment, but thats not the case!
Mike said something like "yeah, living in a condo is just like living in a box under the bridge." I think he didn't realize what he said b/c the guy turned bright red and had a very quick apology.
.: Diary of a Recovering Runner :.
Val, glad you can bite your tongue but I think it's getting a little ridiculous when they start asking how much you spend. One time you should just tell them a ridiculous amount and then say don't tell anyone but we are secret druglords and thats how we afford everything! I guarentee you will get a
kind of response.
I'm really sad because my zumba instructor is moving in 3 weeks and they don't know who is going to replace her. It really sucks because she's become a friend in the few months I've known her and now she's leaving
I hope no one comes in the office this afternoon so I don't have to do much more work than necessary.
I feel really guilty for eating out so much this week. Yesterday I couldn't help it because I was on the road but the rest of the times I could have made dinner but I was just being lazy and using being sick as an excuse.
I think we need more info than that....
I agree with Mandy. I always knew you could be fiesty Mel, just didn't know how much!