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Are all men like this?
So my husband loves to sit at home with this hand(s) in his pants. Only in front of me, and he's usually not doing anything, his hand is just sitting there. I keep telling him to quit it, but he tells me to shut up. Is this normal for a grown man? I see little boys do this sometimes, but didn't think a man would. i mean, what if I sat there with a hand in my pants? I think it's disgusting.
Re: Are all men like this?
My thoughts exactly!
No, not all men are like that. Does he really tell you to shut up?
Not all men are like that. I have 4 brothers. None of them would do that. And BF thinks its weird too.
We love the show Modern Family. The guy that plays Al Bundy is on it. We're just waiting for him to put his hand in his pants just like on Married with Children. We think they'll work it into the script somehow. LOL
Does he really tell you to shut up when you mention it? How do you bring it up (and how often)?
I can see only a couple reasons why he'd tell you to shut up if you mention this to him: a) he's an *** or b) you nag him about it.
First he is NOT Al Bundy. Al Bundy is a sad pathetic character in a sitcom. If your is wanting to be Al then you should have set your standards and goal higher.
Second if my H told me to shut up I'm sure WWIII would begin.
Time to put on your big girl panties
I've got your rainbows and ponies right here
I can see why he'd feel justified in telling you to "shut up" if you think that him touching his own weener is "disgusting."
If my husband nagged at me over stupid little things like how I was sitting, I'd likely tell him to shut up as well.
Are you his mother, or his wife? And by "having his hand down his pants", I have to assume that you mean he's resting his hand inside his waistband and not actually groping himself, right?
Hell, I've sat like that on occasion. It's a surprisingly comfortable way to sit, especially after a big meal or no armrest.
My H started doing that when we lived together. Occasionally he will be watching TV and have his hand down his pants. I am not grossed out it about it. I dont see a big deal in it. I also came home the other day to him watching TV naked on the couch drinking OJ. It was pretty funny to me. We live together and share space so its common that we will see each others quirks.
I don't think you should bug him about it.
lmao! No sharing a bag of chips with that guy!
Rather than questioning whether he should have his hand in his pants, I would seriously wonder why you're married to a man that tells you to shut-up?! I would never tell my husband to shut-up and if he dared to tell me to do so, I would question the very foundation of our marriage. It is not a respectful phrase and no one should ever say it.
As far as having his hand in his pants, well, my husband does this. The mental picture it invokes when it is described makes it seem rather lewd and slovenly, but in actuality, it doesn't seem that way. My husband does it only in private and or when we're alone together; he often gets spontaneous erections and will sometimes absently toy with himself. It has become a joke of sorts between us, since I constantly think he has erections, but I've never considered asking him to stop and don't know why you would.
Now that I've really thought about it, I can honestly say it doesn't bother me at all. It's akin to all the myriad times I've adjusted my breasts in my bra, fixed a bra strap or picked at my fingernails, I figure. We all make involuntary gestures toward our bodies. Why let it bother you?
Overreact much?
There's a difference between screaming "SHUT THE F___ UP!" and a lighthearted "oh, shut up." While it's not a part of my vernacular, I wouldn't consider it a marriage-killer. Sticks and stones, people.
As for the hand-pants thing, I had a phase like this. Wasn't manipulating anything down there, just resting it on the waistband. Not sure why. Don't do it anymore, not sure why on that either.
I agree! No worries!
While my post does make it seem as if I over-reacted, the OP implies that he isn't merely saying, "oh, shut-up," in a playful tone, but rather telling her to: "shut up" and mind her own business. I don't consider that okay in any relationship. I wouldn't be okay with that if it was my sister telling me to shut-up, let alone my husband. It's terribly rude.
But I digress, that is hardly the subject of the post. I only found it surprising that she would calmly accept being told to shut-up and yet, found it "disgusting" that her husband puts his hand in his pants. The two seem to be on completely different planes to me.
k, yes he tells me to shut up but we tell each other to shut up all the time. He is not rude about it. Its more his way of saying "leave it alone". And yes, i might be considered nagging; he's not an ***.
no male (or female) member of my family, including dh, does this.
some of the kinder and 1st grade students will do this at school, but as they get older, there tend to be fewer occurrences. (if i see somebody doing that, i will try to catch their eye and indicate with a subtle head shake that they need to get their hand out of their pants. same for picking the nose. don't do it in public, please! valuable life lesson.)